Hello,
I never thought that I'd be joining a forum as a way of dealing with the worst pain I have ever experienced - my poor dad was diagnosed in May of this year and has been on a steady decline since. He has stage four cancer in the lunch which has metastatised to his leg which lesions in his liver and on his spine. On Saturday, he was admitted as an emergency suffering chronic heart pains as a result of a chest infection. We thought he had stabilised and this morning, he had another 'attack' which leaves him beyond breathless and rather unresponsive. His heart is already in a weakened state due to a quadruple heart bypass fifteen years ago.
He has had four rounds of chemo and the scan is supposed to be tomorrow to show whether any treatment has had any effect. I suspect that given the problems he's experiencing this weekend, I'm not hopeful. We know it's inoperable but I'd sell my soul for it to show any miracle marginal reduction or non-growth.
I don't know what to do. I don't know how to be. I don't know how to be without him.
This strong, protective, supportive, wonderful man has been the love of my life for all of my life and to see him deteriorate on a weekly now almost daily basis is beyond cruel. I try to be strong for my mum but I'm starting to lose the little strength that I had and I don't know how best to support her. How do you even begin to deal with the inevitable?
I'm helpless because I can't make anything better and yet I want so much more dignity for my hero and the man that i burst with pride to call my dad.
Thank you for reading,
KBx