Hi all,
I am really new to this and not the type of person that usually expresses her feelings but today, on this Saturday night, I feel I NEED to...
My father was diagnosed with lung cancer (stage 3) 16 months ago. He also had throat and bladder cancer but these 2 seem to be under control. He lives is Spain and I moved to england 14 years ago. He has been going through chemo in Spain since then and I have been dealing with it from England, visiting as much as I can (I have a 10 month old baby...).
In Spain, well, the Canaries, its not usual to give prognosis so we have been in limbo since then... Last week, for the first time we got told that it would be a matter of months if there was no complications..... My mother is not dealing with this in a way that I can cope with. She BLAMES my father for his illness as its due to smoking. I was a smoker and gave up as soon as I was pregnant, I will NEVER go back but I understand that it is an addiction and I don't think is fair to blame someone for an ilnness. I am losing the relationship with my mother as she angers me so much and I don't feel I can cope with this. I don't know how to carry on and try and be positive. I feel like I am in a dream and not really sure what will happen when I wake up.... I love my father and can't really imagine a life without him. I feel like I haven't been able to deal with this because of my mother and the lack of comunication/information with Spanish doctors and I don't understand how the cancer is or will develop... I don't know what to do. I have always been the "strong" one but feel like I am breaking insisde..... Any advice or words of encoragement truly welcomed. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.... x