HI. My mum has got lung cancer. She has not wanted to know the prognosis but we know it is not good at all. She has been in hospital twice in the last few weeks. Once for 8 days and last week for 2 days. Both for infections and low oxygen levels. In hospital she became very paranoid that we, the family, were conspiring with the staff to keep her in there. She wants to die at home and we want her at home. She had her birthday a few days ago which was very poignant and bittersweet. For the last 2 days she has become extremely withdrawn and will hardly speak to anyone. She has not eaten much for a week. She is now saying we are all in on it - it being putting her in a home or hospice. it seems nothing we say will reassure her. Is this common? How should we approach this? I dont want her last few days or weeks to be a battle or spark a huge argument. My dad is caring for her at home and doing a great job. My sister and I are helping.
