Update... Good and not good

Well my grandad is doing better, we think he has the all clear from cancer which is great. But something not so good has happened. I went to see my dad on Friday and that's when I received the worst news I could ever hear. The chemo and radio did work a tiny bit but not enough, it ended up spreading to his brain and that's why he's been ill. He has between 3-9 months left, and even after everything that's happened the thing that got me most is when he told me what's happening he said he's sorry he can't watch me grow up anymore. That was the first time I saw him cry ever, even typing this brings tears to my eyes. It's been a couple days since I found out and right now I think I'm more in shock now, as i just feel empty like I don't know what to do. 

 

  • Hi Abbi

    So sorry to hear your news about your dad. I can see why this was such a shock for you. I wonder if you can talk to anyone else in your family about what is happening? 

    Don't forget too that our nurses are only a phone call away if you need to talk to someone. You can call the team on 0808 800 4040 from Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm. Calls are free from UK landlines and most mobile phones.

    Please let us know how you are feeling any time. You might find it helps to write down your thoughts here. 

    Best wishes to you at this difficult time,

    Jane

     

     

  • Abbi

    just wanted to say how sorry I am that you have received such dreadful news about your dad. It must have been so hard for him to say that he is sorry he won't see you grow up and equally difficult for you to see your strong and dependable dad cry. You will find the strength and courage to take you through  the coming months. The nurses on the helpline are amazing and very patient if you need to talk. They won't mind if you sob and cry between speaking.  If you just want to let off steam or rant about the unfairness of it all or just share how your days are going I hope you will come here to the forum where you will find support from people who know what you are going through. 

    So so sorry you are having to go through this

    Inula x