I understand, my mum was diagnosed with lung cancer out of the blue about two weeks ago. She had major apetite loss in March so she went to her GP, after numerous blood tests and a chest x-ray she was admitted to hospital for about 5 days. She was then diagnosed. Her health has deterioated rapidly over the past coupel of weeks, being really stiff, not being able to walk with out assistance, co-ordination bad, not being able to grip properly in her hands. Things are moving very slowly frustratingly. They said it had spread but they weren't sure where. She had her MRI today (monday) so that should show. 

Unfortunately it's times like this which really brings our strenghth out, some how, out of no where we find this courage. My has always done everything for me, I still live at home and she would cook my dinners, wash my clothes, bring me my cup of tea in bed etc etc...

No I am having to to do those job. I've never really had to cook before but i've been having to learn over the past few weeks... my mum's been directing me through it. As the only girl in the house I've stopped working (I am freelance, so luckily it wasn't too much of a problem) as she needs assistance in the toilet and to shower. 

My poor mum says she is living one of her worst nightmares.... her daughter having to shower her. My mum is only 66 years old. 

It totally came out of the blue, she was fine in february going to the shops everyday, doing her cooking, cleaning etc... then all of a suddenly she didn't feel like eating and therefore having no energy and just staying in bed all day. 

I am pleased your mum is having her treatment now, I have no idea whenmy mum will start treatment. We were told at the diagnosis that it was inoperable and chemo was an option but it would just prolong her life. 

I dread the thought of her not being able to walk again and being dependant on me and my family.... simply because that would break her, because as I said, that is one of her worst nightmares. She mostly says how she is worried about how me and my brother will cope.

Anyway, please give your lovely mum a gently hug and big kiss from me, she is a warrior. And i want you to know that you are not alone, it's horrible seeing someone you love going through this and also not knowing what the future holds. You are a strong person and a real blessing to your Mum, stay strong for her

Feel free to message me to vent or chat about anything. All the best. x