Hi Katie, welcome to the forum but sorry for the reason you are here. Your comment about people acting strange when they found out your Dad has cancer rings a really familiar tune for me. People are so scared of cancer that they're dumb struck and don't know what to say or how to act, much less able to offer some support to those of us dealing with it, either having it ourselves, or caring for someone with it. I've come to terms with that aspect of it because I accept that they're terrified, so I let it go.

As far as the hospital and medical people are concerned, I think they are just so busy that they don't realize that most people don't understand how this process is supposed to work. Meanwhile we're out here in left field wondering what's going on. I would suggest you make contact with your Dad's main doctor, either his family doctor or the one at the hospital who's treating him, and tell him/her that you and your Dad need some information and answers here. Be polite, but firm. I know they are so busy, but it would be in their best interests too, if their patients and families had some idea about what's going on.

Good luck with it and come on here any time and vent, cry, whatever. There is always someone ready to read your posts. You take care of yourself while you take care of Dad and be sure to let us know how everything is going for you.

Hugs

Lorraine