Hello! I am 18 years old and I've been talking to this guy amazing guy who is 19 years old with lung cancer that is spreading through his body. We've been talking for a while now and we had met on Twitter because we followed mutual friends. We get a long great and have strong feelings for eachother, but the only problem is that I live in Southern California and he lives in Pennsylvania...exactly 2,430 miles away from each other. He has lung cancer and is only 19 years old and has been diagnoised with it for only a few months now. Along with having cancer, he has been through so much from being suicidal and has self-harmed himself due to depression and other personal problems. I'm always understanding for any needs and wishes he desires whether that's from him sending me long messages about what's bothering him at that moment to him not texting me at all because he doesn't want to be bothered. We never facetime or even have had a conversation on the phone because he doesn't like it and is sometimes too ill to facetime or talk, (I promise he's real and that I'm not being catfished or anything haha) But I always try my best to be there for him at all times whenever he needs me. But just last weekend, his sister texted me notifying me he might not make it through the night. I instantly broke down into tears at the thought of never talking to him again and let alone possibily never getting the chance to meet him. I had sent him a text thinking it was my last message to him and told him how i felt about him and what he ment to me. The next morning, he texted me and amazingly made it through the night and told me how he felt about me as well and told me how thankful he was for me and thanked me for helping him through get through this because he knew I was always able to make him feel better in some sort of way. My biggest concern for him is that he doesn't take good care of himself at all and seems like he has given up. He'll tell me he had gone smoking and or have taken other drugs that he probably shouldn't have. With his lungs already not in the best condition that they are in, I'm scared that him smoking weed and other stuff can harm him even more. He's supposed to come to California to visit family a long with seeing me in 4 months, but I'm scared that by then, his health might be worse than what it is and the chances of us meeting might not happen. Even though the doctors gave him little under a year, the thought of loosing him earlier scares me a lot, especially when I almost did loose him. I guess what I'm trying to say and ask for is some advice and or encouragment that I can tell him whenever he does self-harm to himself. I can understand where the depression and suicidal stuff comes from, but it's getting really hard for me to think of stuff to tell someone who is dying when all I want to do is run to him and be there by his side. I don't want to tell him that he should stop smoking because it may risk the chances of us meeting, because I'm not the type of girl to boss a guy around, especially when I'm not physically there to stop him. Any type of advice or encourgement would be really appreciated! Thank You!