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Continuing the journey

jules54
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Hi All

Decided to drop the 'month' from the title of this thread as time moves so quickly and the date becomes irrevelant so quickly.

Hubby and I both feeling pretty drained today but not because of his illness. However it is something that has made both us further stressed and 'outside our control'.  Prepare yourselves for a rant or look away now.

Having put in a long work day yesterday (both of us). I switched on my mobile on leaving work to find a message from the social worker for Mum (regular readers of my thread will know what we have been going through recently).  The upshott of this message was that the Social Services panel have decided that they can offer Mum a place at a sheltered housing complex but not the most local one. The call was to advise me of the panel's decision and to tell me that a visit will be arranged this week, preferably by Wednesday, for Mum to be taken to visit the flat and be told about the package of care and how it will work. They require a decision from Mrs K (this is how my mother is addressed in the follow up e-mail!!) by Friday otherwise the placement will be offered to another service provider!  Unfortunately this means Mum has little choice but to move further away (closest sheltered housing has no vacancy and they are  not willing to help fund where she has spent the last 9 months 'settling in').  The guilt I feel at being unable to cope with this is overwhelming, my hubby is very supportive and angry in equal parts and I am dreading the days ahead.  I am unable to take leave and my negative feelings towards her social worker would not work in Mum's favour as she needs to go on the visit with an open mind and the care home staff state she is quite able to make her own mind up.  If she agrees I will be unable to visit as regularly (my problem not theirs of course) but apparently the social worker will accompany her and I have asked to be kept informed.

Even typing this is making me sad/angry/frustrated and emotionally/physically drained.  I was due to visit Mum today but this is on hold until I have spoken to the care home this morning. Hubby says I should leave it till later in the week when we know what is going on and I suspect he is right (bearing in mind my physical upset involves many 'loo' visits (enough said!!)).

Sorry for all the negativity but just needed to get it out and try and get  myself together before I start on the phone calls.

Hope everyone has a good day.  Regards Julesxx

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    Hi Jules, I'm trying to respond to Annabel, but having technical difficulties! Grrr! Just trying a short message to see if it works! HI Annabel! X Well that worked, but not sure why my other 5 attempts failed! Will try again with original message! (Sorry, am rambling!) x
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    Hi Annabel, this is the 5th time I've tried to respond to your post as every time I click 'post' it shows a 'technical error' page and I lose everything I've written! GRRRR! I spoke to the forum designers yesterday and the reason I can't see the smiley faces toolbar is because it's unavailable on some devices as it takes up so much screen space! Good job I've got my own secret stash! Private Messaging is a little way off as they want to ensure security - there were issues with spam in the past - not sure how tinned meat affects technology haha! Hope you get this! You're back to being the elusive Ms Annabel without the PM facility! Hugs to you, Jo (the paragraph-less one!) that's something being addressed too!
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    H i Jo,

    Love the new picture but then I also loved the old one. I had the same problem as you when I twice lost a page of writing but mine was because my curser keeps jumping about for some reason. Love the tinned meat sentance, Your humour is uplifting  and you always manage to bring a smile or a laugh to my face. My wife doesnt like my new avatar picture as she says I'm not smiling. I hate having my photo taken and if I try to smile, It always looks like a cheshire cat grinning, not that I have anything against Cheshire cats at all.:D

    Just like you I also spent time with the team sorting this forum yesterday.  I do hope you are feeling okay and are taking things easy still. Take care Jo, keep up the humour, hugs, Brian

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    Good afternoon Jo, 

    I am sorry you have been having trouble with the site. Somehow I am not surprised. The od saying comes to mind , if it aint broke.!!!!!!!!!!!! He ho. 

    Your having trouble with me because I am still rather ill, somedays, like today , I have only just managed to get out of bed and got myself something to eat and it 14.16 hours.!!! This is the bodies response to Ava's bugs she gave me 10 days ago. I gather she (bless her) has also been suffering. But why it's still going on with me I don't know. However it is moving day by day and I hope to have recovered soon. Just wish the cough would go then I could get a good nights sleep. 

    Any way enough of me.  Love the fact you've changed your Avatar to your lovely smiley face. I don't have the knowledge or nerve to do that. 

    Can I ask were you invited to speak to the forum designers? When I first got back on and reported a glitch to the moderators who said they would come back to me. Tried to point out a potential cause of glitch and they repeated themselves. Now I don't know who's doing the reading but it certainly wasn't them. Still awaiting their come back. Don't hold out any hope. 

    Always loved spam fritters when I was at school.Don't know if they are good for you... find plenty of spam in the trash can these days. 

    How is your recovery going now JO. ?? Hope you are feeling good at the moment. Look forwad to messaging when it comes back on. Love and hugs 

    Annabel.xx

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    Well Jo you  made it through techo-air and have landed the other side!  You can manage without those smiley faces especially now we can see your smile in the avatar box - nice picture.  I am sure all the 'little annoyances' will be ironed out eventually and its good that the 'designers' can get feedback. Strange though I never got 'spam' on the previous private messaging but perhaps I was lucky! Cannot blame them for wanting to protect people though we are missing it.

    Hope you are slowly feeling stronger following  your op (shame its not summer here then you could sit with your feet up in the garden!).  Hope you all have relaxing weekend. Take care Jules x

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    Hi Annabel

    See from your post to Jo that you are still  feeling poorly - that was some bug that Ava left you.  Hope it soon 'slings it's hook' and that both you and she are back on form.  Think sometimes our immune systems are in better shape in the summer!!  Hubby still enjoying ice cream though, so its summer indoors ha ha.

    Just in from a hectic work shift but  managed to get all my tasks done before I left and now have three days to recuperate before going through it all again.  Our daughter and Zack popped into say hi so there was a lighter moment and I was able to bring her up to speed re her Dad.  Will catch up properly with them all on Sunday when they come for lunch.  This may be the last time we see hubby's sister before she moves away but still not sure so take it as it comes news wise.

    Give yourself some tlc and sending healing virtual hug. Jules x

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    Hi Annabel

    Just wanted to pop in to say that we do know about the glitch you reported, am i right in thinking it was about posts being duplicated? If so we are still looking into that problem and are trying to fix it. We're not 100% sure what is causing it but we're trying a few things out.

    We did put up a request for people to do some remote user testing with us and the offer is till open if you're interested? This is more so that we can see how people are using the site and if some things just aren't working in the way we expected them to. We will fix ALL problems but some are just easier to work out than others and we will also look at making changes where things aren't as user friendly as they could be. There's an awful lot to do but I can reassure you we are working on every glitch we've had reported to us and are considering every piece of feedback we've received.

    Sorry to hear you're not feeling to great at the moment and hope you feel better soon

    With very best wishes

    Sarah - Cancer Chat

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    Oh Annabel, poor you! Must have been a corker of a bug to lay you so low for so long! And as Jules says, out immunity is probably a bit more compromised at this time of year! I was contemplating going back to work for the final week of the term, as this op hasnt knocked me about as much as the last one, but having weighed it up, I would hate to catch a cold in time for Christmas - your predicament has concreted my decision to stay atbhome! I hope you get back to full strength asap! Thanks for your compliment about the avatar pic. It was easy to do, but I did 'um and ar' (sp?) about changing it, as I'm no longer an anonymous meerkat! (I won't add a cheeky wink icon as I think that's what stops my posts from posting! Sending you hugs and healing wishes, Jo xx
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    Hi Jules and Brian, thanks for your kind words about the new picture. It was cropped from part of a photo taken at my son's graduation last July (5weeks after my liver op!) thank goodness for war paint! Brian, I think your photo is lovely - know what you mean about having your pic taken though - I dislike it too! Well, having well and truly hijacked your thread, Jules, I'm going to leave you in peace and go and make a cuppa - can I suggest you both do the same! Sounds like you deserve a few minutes with your feet up! Hugs to you both, Jo xx
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    Thanks Jules, That's really appreciated. I am still rough with cough and general yuck. Just been tidying up late before going to bed as have visitor for coffee tomorrow morning and someone coming to inspect loft insulation that was done in house a few weeks ago. This was government funded so understand they are going to check up works been done correctly.

    Hopefully I will be up to getting up and looking reasonable by 10.00. Haha.!!!!!!!!!

    Hope your not having to work too hard but suspect you will be getting very busy in the next few weeks, so best look after your immune system and eat well yourself. Hope you all have a lovely weekend with family and will chat a bit better when I am more like my usual self .

    Hugs with no bugs:D:cool:

    Annabel. xx

     

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