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Continuing the journey

Hi All

Decided to drop the 'month' from the title of this thread as time moves so quickly and the date becomes irrevelant so quickly.

Hubby and I both feeling pretty drained today but not because of his illness. However it is something that has made both us further stressed and 'outside our control'.  Prepare yourselves for a rant or look away now.

Having put in a long work day yesterday (both of us). I switched on my mobile on leaving work to find a message from the social worker for Mum (regular readers of my thread will know what we have been going through recently).  The upshott of this message was that the Social Services panel have decided that they can offer Mum a place at a sheltered housing complex but not the most local one. The call was to advise me of the panel's decision and to tell me that a visit will be arranged this week, preferably by Wednesday, for Mum to be taken to visit the flat and be told about the package of care and how it will work. They require a decision from Mrs K (this is how my mother is addressed in the follow up e-mail!!) by Friday otherwise the placement will be offered to another service provider!  Unfortunately this means Mum has little choice but to move further away (closest sheltered housing has no vacancy and they are  not willing to help fund where she has spent the last 9 months 'settling in').  The guilt I feel at being unable to cope with this is overwhelming, my hubby is very supportive and angry in equal parts and I am dreading the days ahead.  I am unable to take leave and my negative feelings towards her social worker would not work in Mum's favour as she needs to go on the visit with an open mind and the care home staff state she is quite able to make her own mind up.  If she agrees I will be unable to visit as regularly (my problem not theirs of course) but apparently the social worker will accompany her and I have asked to be kept informed.

Even typing this is making me sad/angry/frustrated and emotionally/physically drained.  I was due to visit Mum today but this is on hold until I have spoken to the care home this morning. Hubby says I should leave it till later in the week when we know what is going on and I suspect he is right (bearing in mind my physical upset involves many 'loo' visits (enough said!!)).

Sorry for all the negativity but just needed to get it out and try and get  myself together before I start on the phone calls.

Hope everyone has a good day.  Regards Julesxx

  • Morning Brian

    What a bargain you got with your special tooling and the pictures show you wasted no time in putting it to good use.  There will be no stopping you now.  You will soon need a storage facility for all your new products.  When does the Wood Club have its next show/sale?  I suppose with no supply of edible nuts you will just have to keep 'turning'out artificial ones.

    Wish my appetite had been affected by the weather but with the extra walking to the bus station I am eating more!! Not good for the wasteline as its not always the healthy food I fancy so will give myself a talking to over this weekend (after dinner at our sons) and get back on track otherwise my next cholesterol check will not be a happy one.

    Hubby had visit from the community nurses yesterday (unscheduled so saw the 'unprepared look') and though he told me nothing more, he has notes in his folder which says he reported feeling well with pain still under control though struggling to be bothered with eating nor enjoying lack of enthusiam for anything. At least he is being honest with someone.  I have told him I do not want to be a 'nag' but feel its the only thing I can do to help encourage his eating/drinking by offering little and often and lo and  behold thats what the nurse wrote in his files (he will think it's a conspiracy).  As I am writing he is at least having breakfast (seems to be the best meal of the day for him) and we are having our daughter and grandchildren pop in later on so have set up the garden.  Managed to 'tame'the honeysuckle earlier in the week and mowed the lawn last night. So no excuse for Granny not to pay swingball and quoits later.

    Hope you and MrsB are coping ok as I know this hot weather can play havoc.  Luckily the windows remain fully open on the buses and I now have a good routine by leaving the house 10mins earlier than I had been I get the rail replacement service  which has been amazing so far (double deckers running every 5/10 mins visiting just the three stations and ITS FREE!!! (to compensate for the inconvenience)).  So really should not complain and have in fact complimented the staff as they have been really on the ball with helping everyone.

    Wishing  you both and the family a lovely weekend. Take care and I do hope that your elderly neighbour is feeling better too. Jules x

  • Hi Gill

    Sorry to read that work is proving to be a bind at the moment and hope you can get things resolved sooner rather than later.  You certainly dont need the added stress work problems bring.

    Like yourself when I worked in central London (many moons ago!!)  and then moved to the suburbs after we married (lived in North London before that so buses were easier then!!) so used the tubes regularly until I was 8mths pregnant with my daughter!  Its more the time factor I suppose.  However I have now got into the new routine and its not so bad and the rail replacement service is free so there is a bonus.  They way it works out I will travel free for 3 weeks, then be back to paying (providing the engineering works finish on time) for a week and then I officially become an 'oldie' so will get free travel pass (once I get mug shot/online application sorted!!). How time flies.

    Will keep my fingers crossed for you that the job (old or new) brings you some resolution soon and hope you are not feeling too shattered by it all.  Take care and have a relaxing weekend. We have dinner at our son's place tomorrow night and will be trying my luck at the bingo tonight.  Hubby is hoping to go out with his best mate (its virtually the only time he leaves the house these days unless he has medical appointments) so hope he makes it.  He is currently watching the Commonwealth Games whilst we await arrival of our daughter and grandchildren.  Jules x

  • Hi Jules,

    Have just come in from the garage; have turned 17 key rings all out of off cuts and in the fastest time ever and nearly all done with one tool. I have hardly had to use sand paper at all. New Knurling tool works a treat on the acorn cups and is not only much faster but a lot more even, so well pleased. Next show is not until late November so have plenty of time. Yesterday I had a 100 metal key rings turn up in the post from a new supplier and instead of costing 15p each these only cost £2.30 for the 100 and free postage. Another bargain.

    My weight has dropped a little this week so the hot weather has helped in this respect. Two great minds think alike from what the nurse wrote. Hope hubby is able to eat a little more for it must be a concern for you. It's so true that cancer doesn't just affect the patient, It affects the whole family in in way or another. Hope you enjoyed your time in the garden and didn't strain yourself with the swingball. Glad you have not experienced any problems with the buses. You are like me in that when you get good service, you compliment people and I think that's a nice thing to do.

    Hope you enjoyed you Bingo evening last night and are now sitting in the garden relaxing and reading your new book. I wish you, hubby and family a great weekend, Best wishes, Brian.

  • Morning Brian

    A pleasant couple of hours spent in the garden already and popped in to fix breakfast for hubby (but he's dropped off again!!).  I have deadheaded the roses and done some weeding as well as topping up bird feeders and have been watching the goldfinches feeding the youngsters (noisy tweeters!!).

    You had a very production session in your workshop and are doing well with your bargains and putting all to good use.

    Enjoyed the company of family on Friday and my social night out (no win but plenty of chat!!) and last night had a lovely meal with our son and partner and her parents who were kind enough to give us a lift over and back (they live about five minutes down the road from us ).  Hubby still able to drive but to be honest rarely leaves the house now other than his Friday social and visiting family/appointments.  We were able to eat outside and it was lovely to catch up with them all.  We are returning the favour next Saturday but have opted for Fish and Chip supper (so I still get a night off cooking) as this will be a treat for us all (I will think of something light to follow as dessert though hubby and I will find one course enough!!

    Definitely more pleasant outside today and able to do a bit of work outside rather than just sitting.  Have big fan on indoors to help though  did manage about four hours sleep last night which is an improvement.  Hope you both enjoy your day.  Jules x

  • Hi George

    Glad to hear you had a really good time (and dry) on Anglesey although no doubt you are pleased to be back now supporting your daughter.  Chemo is not pleasant but the end is in sight and comes more quickly than you expect.  Do hope she copes well not sure if the relly good weather is a plus or minus for chemo although it is certainly great to wake up to (assuming have been able to sleep).

    Best wishes

    Gill

  • Hi Brian

    Am pleased and surprised you have managed to do so much wood turning in this heat. That is the one good thing about working in an office Air Conditioning, to be honest most of us would have melted without it.

    I will be along the coast from you next weekend and again two weeks later visting family in Chichester.  First visit is because my niece (a hairdresser) is dyeing and restyling daughter's hair completely.  We booked the appointment weeks ago as Nicole gets very booked up.  Will down again two weeks later to see my cousin (also called Brian) who is visiting family on his way home to Canada.  He has been teaching in Africa for the past year and wanted to catch up with both sides of family.  I have not seen him for about ten years and do not want to miss this visit. 

    You must let me know the date in November and the location fro your next show/sale as I will certainly pay you a visit.

    I note you have lost a bit of weight with the heat.  Am not suprised as no-one feels like eating much when it is so hot.  Cooling drinks and ice cream sound good.  Hope Mrs bs diabetes is now behaivng itself although I know it can be tricky to manage in the heat.

    Best wishes for a great (if slightly cooler) week.

    Gill

  • Hi Gill,

    I have a large fan which I stand on the bench and which not only keeps me cool but also blows the dust out the doorway. Everything in my garage has to have a dual purpose. What a small world this is as my English sister and my niece both live in Chichester. My next show is not until 15th November in Henfield village hall. There is a free car cark alongside the hall. If you look up Sussex Woodcraft Society in the Internet, (www.sussexwoodcraft.co.uk) we have our own web site and I would love to see you. Let me know nearer the time and I will send a map. There are a load of photos on there so iat will show you the sort of exhibition/ sale of work we put on.

    What part of Canada does your Brian live? All my Canadian family live in various parts of Alberta and wish I could get to see them again but Mrs B cant travel the distance and I couldn't and wouldn't leave her behind not with all the health problems she has for if anything went wrong I would never forgive myself. Have been nut free all week and Mrs B cant believe I didn't buy any. Now my weight is going down I want to keep it going down as I do feel better for losing a few pounds. Trouble is when the Chestnut season starts, will probably put it all back on.

    I hope you have had a good weekend, Take care and best wishes to you and your family, Brian.


  • Hi Jules,

    Woodturning has continued over the past few days and stock is increasing quite rapidly. Mrs B has bent my ear and now has several samples to add to her collection. I am really enjoying trying out new ideas and shapes. Mrs B has informed me I have to clear the new stock away before she (and I) do the housework tomorow or I will be in big trouble Nothing new there, trouble is my middle name.

    I have another committee meeting tonight for my local cancer charity and have donated some of my turnings to them to help raise funds. Did sucome to temptation on Tuesday and bought some nuts but weight is still dropping and feeling better for it. Have lost over half a stone so far and want to continue it.

    Hope your still coping with your journey to work. Is Hubby still sleeping so much? Hope things improve. Our next door neighbour had this problem early this year until her family bought her some jigsaw puzzles and this has given her some interest apart from the telly.

    It's my youngest grandsons birthday on Saturday, a fact he lost no time in reminding me of last night.

    Take care Jules, best wishes to you and your family, Brian



  • Hi Brian

    Glad the woodturning going well and that you have been rewarded with a few 'nut treats'.  Well done with the weight reduction as its never easy and will power is not always an easy companion (just eaten a toasted teacake which was not such a healthy lunch (addition)).  Seems the less hubby wants the more I eat so must take myself in hand .  He is still sleeping a fair amount but managing to eat two reasonably sized meals the last couple of days and have stocked up his sweetie jar in the hope he dips into it. To be frank though it is obviously worrying me I don'tthink he is bothered by it as only gets grumpy if I 'go on' so am now trying 'reverse psycology' and see what that brings.  He has GP check up early next week and  so will see how that goes.  Talking of jigsaws, my Dad loved doing them and I bought both puzzle and porta-puzzle board back in April for hubby's birthday and despite big hints from other members of the family , it remains untouched - it all comes back to that saying 'you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink'.

    Hope you have good weekend and that you grandson has a lovely birthday (has he got a new story from  you?).  We have my son and other half coming for Fish and Chips on Saturday evening and she has just let me know she has been blackberrying so am getting a share of her supplies - yummy.  Think a large tub of ice cream will be in order if anyone can manage dessert!!  Best regards to you and MrsB.

  • Hi All I had a TXT from bev to day the MRI scan she had is good no more operations but starts chemo monday in tablet form so not to bad but she is talking to us all and we are there for her .

    had some good sunsets in timperley over the last few nights . but they will not load