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Continuing the journey

Hi All

Decided to drop the 'month' from the title of this thread as time moves so quickly and the date becomes irrevelant so quickly.

Hubby and I both feeling pretty drained today but not because of his illness. However it is something that has made both us further stressed and 'outside our control'.  Prepare yourselves for a rant or look away now.

Having put in a long work day yesterday (both of us). I switched on my mobile on leaving work to find a message from the social worker for Mum (regular readers of my thread will know what we have been going through recently).  The upshott of this message was that the Social Services panel have decided that they can offer Mum a place at a sheltered housing complex but not the most local one. The call was to advise me of the panel's decision and to tell me that a visit will be arranged this week, preferably by Wednesday, for Mum to be taken to visit the flat and be told about the package of care and how it will work. They require a decision from Mrs K (this is how my mother is addressed in the follow up e-mail!!) by Friday otherwise the placement will be offered to another service provider!  Unfortunately this means Mum has little choice but to move further away (closest sheltered housing has no vacancy and they are  not willing to help fund where she has spent the last 9 months 'settling in').  The guilt I feel at being unable to cope with this is overwhelming, my hubby is very supportive and angry in equal parts and I am dreading the days ahead.  I am unable to take leave and my negative feelings towards her social worker would not work in Mum's favour as she needs to go on the visit with an open mind and the care home staff state she is quite able to make her own mind up.  If she agrees I will be unable to visit as regularly (my problem not theirs of course) but apparently the social worker will accompany her and I have asked to be kept informed.

Even typing this is making me sad/angry/frustrated and emotionally/physically drained.  I was due to visit Mum today but this is on hold until I have spoken to the care home this morning. Hubby says I should leave it till later in the week when we know what is going on and I suspect he is right (bearing in mind my physical upset involves many 'loo' visits (enough said!!)).

Sorry for all the negativity but just needed to get it out and try and get  myself together before I start on the phone calls.

Hope everyone has a good day.  Regards Julesxx

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  • Morning Jules,

    Was just wondering how you got on when you visited your Mum this week, and also how your daughter got on at hospital?  I do hope things are not too stressful for you and that you can try and have a relaxing weekend.

    I'm waiting for my eldest to come home, he has spent somewhat of Freshers sleeping on fellow pupils floors after social events - latest was a toga party last night!  I'm off to my counsellor this morning, had originally been thinking I wouldn't need to see her for too much longer but have been so emotional this week so will talk things over with her.

    The weather is forecast to be nice this weekend but is looking a bit gloomy at present.  Here's hoping it brightens up and the sun shines on us all.  Take care  Hope x

  • Hi Hope

    Hope you visit to the counsellor was helpful and its good for you to be able to talk things through and this should last as long as you need it.

    I have just returned from visiting Mum and she was ok though I am sure a little concerned at how long she will be able to stay where she.  She has amazed the staff at how forthright she was when social worker 'interviewed' her and they are left in no doubt as to what she wants. All the care staff came to see me whilst I was visiting to make sure I was okay too - very sweet.  I stayed until she was due to go into lunch and we even managed a bit of a laugh when I showed her latest photos of her great grandson.  He has really enjoyed his first week in Reception and keeps telling his mum that his teacher is the most beautiful one in the school!!

    Hubby and I picked him up from school on Friday as my daughter had to return to hospital for a second day of tests and monitoring.  Specialist blood tests with regard to her liver function have been sent off and unless she hears otherwise she returns to clinic next Friday.  The last set of bloods were borderline but all readings for the baby were good.  If the new blood tests show certain 'rises' she may have to be taken in and possibly induced (she is now 37 weeks and would probably welcome is being over and done with!!).  Anyway so far so good.  I have an overnight bag ready and waiting and she has several friends on standby to get her to the hospital if her hubby is at work.  Mind you she is still driving herself at present!!

    When we met our grandson at school (its only 10mins to his home) he told Grandad that he could meet us there as it was healthier to walk!!!  My hubby's face was a picture as he drove off and I walked the little tyke home!!

    Life's stresses seem to come and go but having the forum to offload certainly helped me to see things in perspective this week though I think my mood swings are more due to hormones than current circumstances.

    Sounds like your eldest having a great time during Freshers but will no doubt be looking forward to some home cooking.  Have a great weekend with the family and will catch up again soon.  All the best and look after yourself. Jules xx

  • Hi Jules

    Know you mean about a drowned rat.  That is one thing with being in the office - the aircon works really well.  Glad to hear there will be aircon on the tubes but not so good that you have to go by bus for three weeks.

    Like you and Brian have had some difficulty sleeping due to the heat and some spectacular lightening storms.  Quite glad it is bright and sunny at present so I can dry some washing.  Do not think it will last too much longer if the forecast is to be believed.  They expect rain in the next hour or so (not that I am timing them).

    It is good that the pipework is being replaced but you could certainly do without hte upheaval.  Glad you have stocked up on cheap mugs and buckets/jugs for the duration.  As you say i would not like to be one of them working outside in this heat and probably getting soaked as well.

    Hope you have a good weekend despite the works.

    Gill

  • Hi Gill,

    I am sure Jules wont mind me using her thread. I am amazed how well you have coped with your return to work, helped no doubt by the fact you have a caring boss and colleagues. You seem a very strong and determined lady which helps. Brianitus has slowed down as it too hot to eat the amount of nuts I normally consume. Have even lost a little weight and could do with losing a lot more. Not able to work in my garage in weather like this. I tried it for a while this morning and came indoors looking like I had sprung a leak. Mrs B had to help me off with my shirt and vest for they were literally sticking to me. So had a quiet afternoon but have found what are called metal Knurling wheels on Ebay. I will make up a tool to give a diamond texture my wooden acorns with these wheels which I have to do by hand at the moment so will certainly speed things up..

    Hope you are coping with this hot weather Gill. Take care and I hape you and your family have a great weekend, Take care, best wishes, Brian


  • Hi All you great people I have just had 24 days on angelsey in our van it only rained once Brian i have a picture for you to look at of a lump of wood (joke) but I HAVE LOST IT but i will find it I think it about a needle saw does that sound right it looks fantastic .Now my eldest Bev is to start a chemo 6 month treatment she had a hemi-colecomi ? 4 weeks ago for a bowel tumour  she is 54 buts looks 35 it is a bad time for us all so I will need help and advice from you all .but I will find that picture brian .regards all .

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  • Morning George

    Good to hear that you had a lovely break with the van.  Your forum buddies will, I know. do all they can to help you and your daughter through the coming weeks as she goes through treatment.  As many of us know is not an easy 'club' to belong to but not sure where I would be now without the continuing knowledge that people out there understand when we need to offload as well as get advice.  Wishing your daughter all the very best and sending virtual hugs. Jules x

  • Hi George,

    So pleased you had a good time on Angelsey but sorry to hear about your daughter. Bet your four legged friend made sure you went for plenty of walks. One thing is for sure George, you can count on help, advice and support on here with all the great people who are members of this great forum.

    Take care, best wishes to you and your daughter, Brian.

  • I Brian many thanks for your reply we are taking Bev out for lunch monday to a pub near her in Bramhall first time we will have seen her for a month but we are there for her now.

    As for that picture I have found it and will try to post  now .[[ ]]

  • Morning George

    Just wanted to say hope you have a lovely 'catch up' with your daughter and enjoy the pub outing. Interesting piece of woodwork in your picture to Brian (I still have not managed to upload any pics as am rubbish at 'reducing size'. Am hoping to solve this issue by the time I get to my birthday next month as have to produce a digital photo (enough to break the camera!!) to get an 'oldies' pass for London travel.

    Look after yourself too but know  your thoughts (and those of your forum buddies) will be for your daughter just now.  Sending you all virtual hugs. Jules x

  • Hi George,

    Thanks for the picture. Hope you all enjoy your pub lunch, Take care Brian.

  • Now come on Brian what is the art called is it a needle saw .Had a good lunch with Bev it wasw at the garden centre woodford stockport dear but OK had a good chat it was great she looked well ,It was one flat lump of wood ???

    lost a few pounds but all OK Friday a big day for her but we are all there for her now .regards all many thanks for your thoughts for Bev .[[ ]]

  • Hi George,

    With regard to your question, I know it as Scroll saw art. But like many things, I believe its has different names in other parts of the country. In days gone by it used to cut by fretsaws but these days it is scroll saws that are used. Yes it is cut from a flat piece of timber. I have seen it used to make a collapsible bowl. The blade is set at about a 15 degree angle and when the timber drops down it forms a tapered bowl. Never tried it myself but did use my scroll saw to do some Intasia, in other words making a picture or in my case a dolphin out of wood framed in a circular frame. Picture attached

    Pleased you had a good day with Bev, Regards to you and your family, Brian.

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  • Hi George,

    With regard to your question, I know it as Scroll saw art. But like many things, I believe its has different names in other parts of the country. In days gone by it used to cut by fretsaws but these days it is scroll saws that are used. Yes it is cut from a flat piece of timber. I have seen it used to make a collapsible bowl. The blade is set at about a 15 degree angle and when the timber drops down it forms a tapered bowl. Never tried it myself but did use my scroll saw to do some Intasia, in other words making a picture or in my case a dolphin out of wood framed in a circular frame. Picture attached

    Pleased you had a good day with Bev, Regards to you and your family, Brian.

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