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Continuing the journey

Hi All

Decided to drop the 'month' from the title of this thread as time moves so quickly and the date becomes irrevelant so quickly.

Hubby and I both feeling pretty drained today but not because of his illness. However it is something that has made both us further stressed and 'outside our control'.  Prepare yourselves for a rant or look away now.

Having put in a long work day yesterday (both of us). I switched on my mobile on leaving work to find a message from the social worker for Mum (regular readers of my thread will know what we have been going through recently).  The upshott of this message was that the Social Services panel have decided that they can offer Mum a place at a sheltered housing complex but not the most local one. The call was to advise me of the panel's decision and to tell me that a visit will be arranged this week, preferably by Wednesday, for Mum to be taken to visit the flat and be told about the package of care and how it will work. They require a decision from Mrs K (this is how my mother is addressed in the follow up e-mail!!) by Friday otherwise the placement will be offered to another service provider!  Unfortunately this means Mum has little choice but to move further away (closest sheltered housing has no vacancy and they are  not willing to help fund where she has spent the last 9 months 'settling in').  The guilt I feel at being unable to cope with this is overwhelming, my hubby is very supportive and angry in equal parts and I am dreading the days ahead.  I am unable to take leave and my negative feelings towards her social worker would not work in Mum's favour as she needs to go on the visit with an open mind and the care home staff state she is quite able to make her own mind up.  If she agrees I will be unable to visit as regularly (my problem not theirs of course) but apparently the social worker will accompany her and I have asked to be kept informed.

Even typing this is making me sad/angry/frustrated and emotionally/physically drained.  I was due to visit Mum today but this is on hold until I have spoken to the care home this morning. Hubby says I should leave it till later in the week when we know what is going on and I suspect he is right (bearing in mind my physical upset involves many 'loo' visits (enough said!!)).

Sorry for all the negativity but just needed to get it out and try and get  myself together before I start on the phone calls.

Hope everyone has a good day.  Regards Julesxx

  • Good morning Jules,

    Pleased you now have your laptop back in operation. Bet you enjoyed your day yesterday, and that the garden enjoyed the privilege of your company. I had a really lazy day yesterday as Saturday I cut our elderly neighbours hedge and then later on mowed front and back lawns and the heat took it out of me so hence the lazy day yesterday. Following on from the wooden owls, I have decided to try and turn  of some wooden acorns, apples and pears with eyes/noses just for a bit of fun. Will show you them when I have completed them. As regard to the NUT SHOP I was disgusted that they were out of stock peanuts when I visited them. I had to buy a small bag of peanuts and raisons instead. This will make you laugh. When I went to pay for them, this woman suddenly popped up from behind the till, and frightened the daylights out of me.

    My sister has emailed to say dad is very weak still. It was his birthday yesterday so he is now officially 92. Hope you have an easy day at work without to much heavy lifting. Wishing you and hubby a pleasant week, Brian,

  • Hi Jules

    Glad to see you are back on-line.  Hopefully your laptop will behave itself for a long while.

    Glad to hear hubby is still doing ok and that you enjoyed the BBQ at your sons.

    Am currently watching tennis but have not timed this very well as I am doing two full days at work this week and if all ok will be full time from Monday!  Obviously did not think this through.

    Am just off to chase the hopsital.  They told me two weeks ago they were referring me for PET and Ultrasound Scans but have heard nothing.  They want the answers by 8th July when I am duemy four week check so are not leaving themsevles much time.

    Best wishes.

    Gill

  • Hi Brian

    What a good neighbour you are.  I am no surprised you had a lazy day as you deserve it.

    Was very disaapointed to hear about the NUT SHOP.  They obviously need more training to ensure they have stock of your requirements at all times.

    Look forward to seeing acorns, apples and pears when you are ready.

    Glad to hear your Dad has reached 92 and hopefully he will get a bit stronger. 

    Best wishes.

    Gill

  • Hi Brian

    Think you deserved your relaxing day yesterday having put in all that hard work the day before.  Fingers crossed I will mow the lawn tomorrow when I am off though it has not grown too much and I rather like the buttercups and daisies that are currently gracing it.  Like ideas with fruit with eyes being your next woodturning experiment and look forward to seeing the results in due course.

    Very pleased to have my technology back to keep me company though my book pile benefitted by  having finished three books in a week - been a while since I managed that but then I do not take my laptop outside and with the weather continuing to be good maybe another book may be started tomorrow.  Mind you Wimbledon having started (just saw Andy Murray get his first win under his belt) maybe I will be less inclined to read for the next couple of weeks.

    Hope you and Mrs B coping okay with the high temperatures - feels very muggy here at present but must not complain as its about time  especially as it was midsummer day on Saturday.  This year is certainly seeming to fly by or maybe as I get older I notice it more ha ha.

    Hubby had the district nurse phone today to see if he needed their planned visit on Thursday and he said no as all is okay at present with medication.  He has got a GP check up on 4th July so expect he will find out about his latest round of blood tests then - think they must be ok as they would have called him in sooner.  Left him a tempting bowl of fresh strawberrries alongside his cereal when I went to work this morning and lo and behold all gone when I got back.  Take care  Jules x

  • Hi Gill

    Got home from work in time to see Murray win his first match and am looking forward to watching a few more matches as and when I can (at least with the laptop I get to watch what I want whilst hubby can watch main tv).  Whilst I am sure you want to watch the tennis I am sure you will manage to see the evening highlights to catch up when you get back from work.  All the best for next week when you begin full time again but try to take it easy when you get in.  Hope you get your scans sorted soon as it would be nice 'to put all that to bed for a while' especially as you have a check up  looming.  No doubt you are enjoying having Alice home for her summer break too - how is the quilt set looking?

    Well. should really go and do a bit of housework as I am still sitting here in my work clothes, having had lunch with hubby.  Will visit Mum tomorrow and see if her GP is prepared to sign the forms required before completing the rest and sending them off.  My daughter will pop round when its ready as she is due to be joint Power of Attorney so that she can help out when necessary.  Take care  and chat soon.  Jules x

  • Hi Jules,

    The hot weather is okay with me apart from the fact it gets so hot in my garages I tend not to work out there much in hot weather. Also I suffer a little from hay fever so try to avoid additional dust.  But Mrs B has never liked the hot weather and with some of her medication has to avoid the sunlight. Hope all goes well with your visit to your mother tomorrow and you can sort the paperwork out. Brother in law has at last had his operation today. Have just spoken to sister in law and she is so relieved it has gone ahead at last, but also understandably concerned. Glad hubby is coping okay with meds. I lost a lot of our strawberry plants due to the wet weather so Mrs B not having so many treats this year.

    Take care, best wishes to you, hubby and family, Brian.

  • Hi Jules,

    Glad you are enjoying Wimbledon.  Will send you a PM.  Hope x

  • Hi Jules I am away for three weeks but may be in touch   if the signal is OK on angelsey take care   george xx[[ ]]

  • Hi George

    Enjoy your Island break and when I saw the photo just imagined the perfume - beautiful.  Hope the weather keeps good for you holiday and that your daughter is recovering from her op well.  Take care.Jules x

  • Morning Brian

    Another sunny day welcomed me when I woke and am hoping Mum's disposition matches when I visit.  If we can get GP agreement then hopefully we can fill out forms and be ready to take things forward - another hurdle jumped would be good.  Will enjoy the walk (definitely need to exercise so maybe I should power walk it!!) and  will do a bit of food shopping on the way home before setting about the lawn mowing.

    Glad that  your brother in law's op has now gone ahead, another step on his journey and wish him a good recovery.  I am sure Mrs B and his wife will welcome your support during the whole process but now at least if will feel like they are moving forward.

    From an earlier post cannot believe your local 'nut' outlet has fallen short and not only given you a fright (fancy popping up suddenly like that!) but being unable to supply your usual order.  Am sure you enjoyed the alternative and hope they will be 'squirrelling' away to make sure they are ready for Brianitis when you go next.  Regards to you and the family.Jules x