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Continuing the journey

Hi All

Decided to drop the 'month' from the title of this thread as time moves so quickly and the date becomes irrevelant so quickly.

Hubby and I both feeling pretty drained today but not because of his illness. However it is something that has made both us further stressed and 'outside our control'.  Prepare yourselves for a rant or look away now.

Having put in a long work day yesterday (both of us). I switched on my mobile on leaving work to find a message from the social worker for Mum (regular readers of my thread will know what we have been going through recently).  The upshott of this message was that the Social Services panel have decided that they can offer Mum a place at a sheltered housing complex but not the most local one. The call was to advise me of the panel's decision and to tell me that a visit will be arranged this week, preferably by Wednesday, for Mum to be taken to visit the flat and be told about the package of care and how it will work. They require a decision from Mrs K (this is how my mother is addressed in the follow up e-mail!!) by Friday otherwise the placement will be offered to another service provider!  Unfortunately this means Mum has little choice but to move further away (closest sheltered housing has no vacancy and they are  not willing to help fund where she has spent the last 9 months 'settling in').  The guilt I feel at being unable to cope with this is overwhelming, my hubby is very supportive and angry in equal parts and I am dreading the days ahead.  I am unable to take leave and my negative feelings towards her social worker would not work in Mum's favour as she needs to go on the visit with an open mind and the care home staff state she is quite able to make her own mind up.  If she agrees I will be unable to visit as regularly (my problem not theirs of course) but apparently the social worker will accompany her and I have asked to be kept informed.

Even typing this is making me sad/angry/frustrated and emotionally/physically drained.  I was due to visit Mum today but this is on hold until I have spoken to the care home this morning. Hubby says I should leave it till later in the week when we know what is going on and I suspect he is right (bearing in mind my physical upset involves many 'loo' visits (enough said!!)).

Sorry for all the negativity but just needed to get it out and try and get  myself together before I start on the phone calls.

Hope everyone has a good day.  Regards Julesxx

  • George,

    Wishing your daughter a speedy recovery, and thank you for the flower pictures. Love the purple poppy.

    Annabel xx.

  • Jules,

    I do hope your computer gets well soon. !!!

    Misssing you both.

    Annabelxx.

  • Hi all bev is doing well back on the ward 7 hours in ops room sorry for the mail mess had a drink or two xxx

  • Hi Everyone

    Laptop returned and hopefully will be okay for a while now as has new part and full service.  My daughter ended up taking into local shop (no charge for diagnosing and half the price of local large store to fix!!).

    Firstly George really love the pretty pictures and so pleased to read that your daughter has come through her op okay and with the support of you and the family am sure she will be 'bright and breezy' very soon.  Sending very best wishes to you all.

    On a general note hope everyone is keeping okay.  Though only been away from the net for a few days feels like longer ha ha.  Hubby continues to plod on, sleeping when needs be but appetite has not been too bad and he managed quite well on Father's Day when we were at our son's place for a BBQ .  He had a short (15min) nap in the afternoon and we came home (he is still driving for short journeys) early evening.  Monday his brother popped in as his wife was having a check up at local hospital to us. He brought both new dogs who were pretty boisterous (and left calling cards in our back garden - grrrrrrr) and dont think he actually appreciates that hubby cannot clear up after them)!!) so guess who had that job when I got home from work.  That said it was good for them to have some time together as in a few months they will have probably completed their moved to Isle of Man.

    Had a play with youngest grandson today as picked up laptop on way home from work.  Eldest grandson was at friends for tea but expect we will see them over the weekend sometime.  Daughter was waiting in for new washing machine (we are not doing so well as a family with electricals just now ha ha).

    Well best go a sort dinner and hopefully will be catching up with you all soon.  Take care all. Virtual hugs  Jules xx

  • Welcome back Jules,

    We have missed you while you laptop has been receiving first aid!!!!!!!! Pleased to hear you enjoyed the BBQ. Went to see my grandson last night. After making up three stories for him, he asked if he could read me a part of a Horrid Henry story. He then also made up a small story for me.  I was so proud of the way he is improving his speech  and his reading and the fact that he wanted to do this for me.

    Will talk more later on. Best wishes, Brian.

  • Hi Jules,

    Good to see you back on line.  Have sent you a PM.  Hope x

  • Hi Jules,

    Like Hope it's good to have you back online.

    Annabel. xx

  • Hi Brian, Hope and Annabel

    Thanks for the welcoming words.  Good to be back in chat  mode (hubby currently watching 'fishing'on tv and my am I pleased to have my technology to fall back on again)

    Brian  - Glad to read that your youngest grandson is doing so well - he is a plucky lad and must be bringing increased joy to all the family with the way he tackles life in general - kids can teach us adults a thing or two.  Hope you and Mrs B have a lovely weekend as weather looks fair (I feel the garden calling!) - has the nut shop got repeat orders set up for you now?

    Hope -  Have sent you a rambling PM - sorry.  Take care of yourself.

    Annabel

    Nice to hear from you.  Hope you back has improved considerably.  I am sporting a stiff neck but hoping its just because I may have slept awkwardly though I did 'trolley'home a heavy load of shopping so that may be partly responsible.  Hope all going well with the bookings for the cottages but that you are able to find a bit of time for relaxation and catching up with Ava's antics.  Little Zack (now 8mths) has began to take steps holding someone's hands so could be spending time on my knees to get to his level!!(he shows no interest in crawling yet but then his brother was an early walker).  We also have a few words now which is sweet - how quickly they change.  Look after yourself.

    Hugs to all Jules xx

  • Hi Jules,

    Lovely to hear from you again.

    Glad you are back online.

    Yep the back is better although I am still a bit wary of what I do and how long I do it for.

    Generally bookings are full for June, a few more to sell in August, but people still seem to book late when it comes to this country unless they have been before.

    It's been really hot on some of the cleaning days, have to drink loads of water at such times.

    Like your little Zack, Ava has decided so far not to crawl although Charlotte has given her tummy time everyday for a long time. However she is shuffling somehow. And standing up in her cot. I haven't seen her since April. Am hoping Charlotte will come up for a week in August with her before Charlotte goes back to work in September.

    Would be nice to spend some time with them both.

    Getting down on ones knees is no problem it' the getting up again. He ho.

    Hope you have fun with them both . Take care Jules,

    Annabel xx

  • Hi Annabel

    Good to read that your back is much improved.  Having suffered a 'twang' about four years ago you are right to take care as once there is a weakness it seems to flare up from time to time (lifting at work no matter how careful I am seems to be the root cause).  Can imagine it being hot work cleaning the cottages inbetween visitors (am only doing housework in short bursts) during nice weather but am sure your visitors are appreciative of your efforts as they enjoy the surroundings and am sure you will get August bookings once people realise how soon it is!!  I have first week in July off (to coincide with Wimbledon which I enjoy watching) which with my usual days off will actually give me a 12day break.  Strange I have mixed feelings about it as enjoy the social side of work (conversation at home still an issue that is unlikely to change so have to accept its mainly one sided).  I am hopeful of going out for the day with a friend which means lunch and a bit of retail therapy but will decide nearer the time.  Hubby likes me to carry on as normal as he does not need me to actually 'care' for him as yet but he does not want to stray too far from home (apart from attending family visits locally) so am somewhat limited as to how I enjoy the break but will try and talk him into taking a stroll if I can.

    Am sure the two little ones will take off in their own good time.  Zack not keen on being on his tummy when he rolls over and soon rolls back.  He sits for some time playing with his activity centre and toys and of course when his big brother is home from school  has instant playmate to fetch and carry!!   Loves his door bouncer and my daughter takes him to the park regularly and also goes to Mum and baby club (brings back memories as this is how I spent my time when she and her brother were small).  Time definitely flies and I am now counting down to my next milestone birthday but am trying to stay 'young in mind if not in body' ha ha.

    Hope you found a bit of time for some relaxation during this lovely weekend.  Take care, sending hugs.  Jules x