Hi Jo

Thanks for your very kind words.  Not sure where I would be without the continuing support of this forum and though only a 'wife' on the fringe so to speak I am often humbled by what those that are suffering manage to offer in their words of wisdom and fight.

My internet connection has been on and off the past few days (putting it down to high winds/rain - have no techy knowledge!!) and its adding to my frustration being cut off for hours on end from my virtual support network (never though I would be saying that!!).

Hope your current chemo infusion does not cause too much upset and that you and the family can enjoy the festivities a little (or a lot if possible).  Hubby has taken several calls from friends enquiring after him this week (must be the time of year and they have stopped sending cards!!) which at least has given him something to concentrate on.  He has an appointment with GP on Monday and then hopefully he will be able to try and enjoy the family get-together.  He currently dozing in front of yet another fishing programme with neighbours cat firmly on his lap).

Take care virtual friend and send you peaceful thoughts and best wishes for the coming week and beyond.  Jules xxx

Hi Jo,  Thanks for your post, wishing you a peaceful Christmas and I really hope you are going to be pampered as you well deserve.  I have finished work now and am so looking forward to getting away.

Hi Brian,  Thank you too for your post, wishing you and Mrs B a lovely Christmas, I am sure you will enjoy your time with your grandchildren.

Hi Jules,  Likewise I am sure your lovely grandchildren will bring a smile to you and your hubby over the Christmas season.

Thank you all so much for your support over the past few months since I joined this site.  I am still very sad, and still have very difficult days but I am so trying to be positive for the New Year and I know I can count on my friends on here to help me.  Hope xx

Hi Jules,

Hope your Router is behaving itself and you are able to get on-line when you want to. We had a phone call yesterday regarding my brother-in-law. It's not good news I'm afraid. The cancer has as expected got out from his prostate but it is in his hip, knees, ribs, arms, back and spine. Some of them are only small patches but my sister-in-law was very worried as they are now waiting for a hospital appointment to sort out a care plan. She was concerned that until this is in place, the cancer is still growing. I was able to tell her the hormone injection he has already had doesn't just work on the prostate as it is also used for breast cancer patients so it will be holding the cancer back and possibly shrinking it. She is also concerned that due to Christmas he will not get his appointment through very quickly but I was able to tell her they have to see him in so many days and the hospital he is under has a good reputation but I do understand her concerns. My wife has not taken the news well either so have had to try and calm her fears as well.

Hope you and your husband enjoyed the party / anniversery last night and that you are not too tired today as a result. It is raining hard here at the moment and it's so dark we have had to put the lights on as I could not see my keyboard. I have also seen on my computer this morning that we could have snow for Christmas.

Do take care and can sense you are looking forward to finishing work on Monday and hope you are able to take a well earned rest.

Best wishes as always, Brian.

Hi Brian

Sad to read the news about your brother in law but know you will bedoing all you can to keep spirits high and so hope the care plan will be in place sooner rather than later - so difficult when it all happens around a holiday period.  Take care of yourselves during this troubling time for the family.

The party last night was let down by the venue sadly.Held in a local AAlisted hotel but  Not enough seats for the 80+ guests. Hot meal served cold on chipped and cracked plates being served by 1 poor youngster who did nothave a clue what to do/say when vegetables ran out and gravy came half hour after food!! The party tables wereset up on the small dance floor so when food finished they cleared tables (and all the seats away) so it was standing room only.  Needless to say we were home by 9.30 as there was no way we could stand all evening.  Hubby has been pretty low today (and tired) as I think it just reminded him of his limitations.  Now putting it behind us, we have watched the re-run of strictly which we missed and he is enjoying tea and biscuits (first time in ages~!!).

My son and I visted Mum this morning and at least we got a few smiles and a Happy Christmas before she dozed off bless her.  We waited till she woke up and think she was surprised we were still there!!  We have left gifts/cards ready for Christmas Day (along with emergency contact details for whilst I am away) and will be back to see her after the festivities which she wanted no part of (she always used to leave the country at Christmas to get away from it so its no surprise she has little interest).

The internet is on then off then on again and will have the linelooked at after Christmas if it continues.  Was surprised to hear you had rain.  We have had a mainly sunny and mild day but still pretty windy with apparently worse to come.Hey ho.

I will be happy to finish my shift tomorrow (am probably on my own on the department - no extra hours or staff this year!!) and put my feet up for a few hours.  Hubby has his last appointment in the morning with the GP and a friend popping in for a tipple in the afternoon and then we are away from the evening of the 24th and am hoping he will enjoy this valuable time with all the family.

Do wish you and your wife and the rest of your family peace and goodwill  and hope to be able to chat again with my forum friends after the Christmas break (no computer access whilst we are away and no mobile signal at my sister in law'shome so should be peaceful.

kindest regards Jules xx

Hi Jules,

Sorry to read that your festive party was a let down! Not only disappointing for the guests, but what a blow for the 'hosts' too!

I hope your final day at work goes smoothly! We ventured into town today and were pleasantly surprised at the level of crowds!

We didn't stay too long though, an hour and a half was enough for me! Managed a festive coffee in that time though!

Hope your hubby's GP appointment goes well tomorrow too!

I know you're going to be techno- free over the holidays, so have a great break, enjoy the walks, the food and the family games!

We'll chat soon, festive hugs to you and your family, Jo xxx

Hi Jo

Thanks for the lovely message and hope once recovered from your foray into the shopping centre you will enjoy the festivities with your nearest and dearest and that your 'batteries' are rechargeable.  Take care my virtual friend. Hugs from Jules xx

Hi Jules,

Shame that the party wasn't as good as it could have been.  I hope you enjoy a lovely time with your family over the holidays and that hubby gets on OK at the GP tomorrow.  I too will be going away so will speak again after Xmas.  Take care.  Hope x

Hi Jules,

Just wondering when you are off for Christmas? Are you travelling Christmas Eve, take care when you do love, weather forecast isn't great with the wind factor. It's snowing here again tonight, 3rd time this week. Not settling too much just yet though. I hope you have a really lovely Christmas and a restful time because you deserve it. I hope your whole family enjoy themselves especially your husband. Take some lovely photo's and make some lovely memories.

Look forward to chatting when you get back.

Christmas hugs

Annabel. xx

Brian,

You have helped me from my first post on here and I shall always be grateful to you for your response.

I hope you have a lovely peaceful Christmas day with Mrs B and a glorious boxing day with your family.

Christmas hugs

Annabel. xx