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Continuing the journey

Hi All

Decided to drop the 'month' from the title of this thread as time moves so quickly and the date becomes irrevelant so quickly.

Hubby and I both feeling pretty drained today but not because of his illness. However it is something that has made both us further stressed and 'outside our control'.  Prepare yourselves for a rant or look away now.

Having put in a long work day yesterday (both of us). I switched on my mobile on leaving work to find a message from the social worker for Mum (regular readers of my thread will know what we have been going through recently).  The upshott of this message was that the Social Services panel have decided that they can offer Mum a place at a sheltered housing complex but not the most local one. The call was to advise me of the panel's decision and to tell me that a visit will be arranged this week, preferably by Wednesday, for Mum to be taken to visit the flat and be told about the package of care and how it will work. They require a decision from Mrs K (this is how my mother is addressed in the follow up e-mail!!) by Friday otherwise the placement will be offered to another service provider!  Unfortunately this means Mum has little choice but to move further away (closest sheltered housing has no vacancy and they are  not willing to help fund where she has spent the last 9 months 'settling in').  The guilt I feel at being unable to cope with this is overwhelming, my hubby is very supportive and angry in equal parts and I am dreading the days ahead.  I am unable to take leave and my negative feelings towards her social worker would not work in Mum's favour as she needs to go on the visit with an open mind and the care home staff state she is quite able to make her own mind up.  If she agrees I will be unable to visit as regularly (my problem not theirs of course) but apparently the social worker will accompany her and I have asked to be kept informed.

Even typing this is making me sad/angry/frustrated and emotionally/physically drained.  I was due to visit Mum today but this is on hold until I have spoken to the care home this morning. Hubby says I should leave it till later in the week when we know what is going on and I suspect he is right (bearing in mind my physical upset involves many 'loo' visits (enough said!!)).

Sorry for all the negativity but just needed to get it out and try and get  myself together before I start on the phone calls.

Hope everyone has a good day.  Regards Julesxx

  • Hi Brian

    did I not say that Ibought 'silly socks' for other members of the family too - if we are all laughing at each other's feet then I will be one happy shopper and it will be a very good start to our celebrations.

    Hope  you and your wife are keeping well and no doubt you have been kept busy with wood club activities.  Thought of you when I was out yesterday as they had street vendor selling roast chestnuts and had visions of you taking over and wheeling it away to enjoy!!  Allth very best for a peaceful weekend and hope to chat again soon. Jules x

  • Hi Jules,

    Glad to read you had a lovely day out with your friend recently. Dare say things are getting a bit exciting for your eldest grandson as his birthday approaches. Hope hubby is feeling a bit better and that the new tablets are beginning to kick in. Have a great birthday party at the weekend. Hope xx

  • Thanks Hope. I am still in awe at all the support we all recieved on the forum.  We are getting busier at work which comes with its own stress but on the other hand I get to talk to people and it makes the time pass.  Have a few busy days ahead as am out on Friday (bingo - hubby to pub with his mate), Saturday (haircut - really be happy to get this done as its driving me mad and have now been paid so that will help), after lunch we are visiting our friends' daughter and son in laws to see their  new bungalow and catch up with their news  (being a bone cancer sufferer in remission the son in law is very supportive of us both and we are looking forward to seeing them.  Then Sunday we will be at the 5th birthday party (his birthday is actually tomorrow but he will be at school and then out for tea with the family).  I have just got to remember to get the helium balloon so sit by his cake and then enjoy being a babysitter, with all the other grandparents, as up to 30 children have a whale of a time!!! Think Monday at work may well feel like a rest.

    Hubby is so so at present, no real change other than getting more indigestion so we are trying smaller meals. The doc has told him to get walking as this will help rather than spending all day sitting down - no sign of this when I am about but he is doing the physio for his arms on a daily basis.  I know it takes a while for anti depressants to kick in so we will be monitoring things.  He is back at the GP 23rd Dec for check up on his medication but hopefully s he will be able to see some improvement. Its just so hard for him to accept he cannot work and he does not seem to be able to get past this yet.

    Enough of me, how are you doing? Hope all the family are well and no doubt  your sons are studying hard too.  Take care  and sending virtual hugs and best wishes for a peaceful weekend.  Jules xx

  • Good afternoon Jules,

    Hope you have a good evening out and a win at the bingo tonight. I now have a vision of all your family standing in a row try to judge which one has the silliest socks of all, it's just my silly sense of of humour. I am all set for tomorrows show now and have even loaded the car as we all setup tonight so that we can open to the public earlier tomorow.  I cleared Tesco's out of chestnuts the other day, the tray was empty, not even one left for the squirrels. 

    I will be taking my camera with me tomorow as we have a couple of new members exhibiting for the first time and I usually take lots of photos anyway.

    Hope the 5th birtday goes well, take care, Brian


  • Morning Brian,

    Have just popped into the forum before heading out to my hair appointment  (half hour walk but looks a bit nippy!!).  No luck at the bingo but good to be out socialising with my friend and catch up with all our family news of the last week.   Just to further your vision of the 'silly socks' contest (mostly animal orientated I might add) at least two of us have 'jumpers' to match so fear no one will be taking us seriously when Christmas morning comes around.  Hubby also enjoyed his evening in the pub and am beginning to hope that this is where he talks things through (just hate thinking he is bottling it all inside).

    Hope your 'wood club' show goes well today and that the new members exhibiting, enjoy the experience of 'belonging'.  I am now thinging the club has its own member of the paparazzi!!  Have a happy and peaceful weekend. Jules x

  • Good morning Jules,

    Glad both you and your  husband enjoyed your Friday night out, you both deserve it. Our show went very well and it was good to meet up with my wood club friends and exchange banter with them, even if it was me giving out most of the banter. I do enjoy these shows but do find them very tiring. Once again I was amazed at the quality of work and the amount of talented people we have in out 110 wood club membership. I have put a couple of photos on the Amazing Quotes thread. I also enjoy meeting people and talking to them about our club. I didn't have as much wood turning done as normal so I put my books on display and had a lot of interest regarding them.

    I bet you will enjoy your grandsons party today and he will be one happy little boy. You will end up like me, tired but very happy.

    Now our show is finished, I had better get on with my oldest grandson's story for I want to give it to him for Christmas. I only have 7 pages written and want to end up with about forty or near to it so will have to get cracking.

    Take care Jules and have no doubt we will talk again soon, Brian.





  • Hi Jules,

    Hope your grandson enjoyed his birthday, and hope he managed to lift your hubby's spirits.  Expect you are now recovering from the party - these 5 year olds know how to have a good time!  Hope xx

  • Hi Brian,

    I love this bowl?? with Santa and his reindeers.It so striking. I love the other work you displayed as well. Well done to all your members. I told you I have always liked the ida of working with wood. A couple of years ago my dear husband bought us a second hand lathe with the idea that I should have a go, well I can tell you I haven't had one moment since to go out and have a go with it. He even gave me a few books to read up on all the safety aspects of it. Maybe over Christmas this year if the weather is not too cold I'll go out with him and have an hour of practice. There's just never enough hours in a day sometimes. LOL.

    Just got to get the dear man up in the loft in the next hour to get down any Christmas decorations/cards/wrapping paper before he starts another job. !!!!!

    Hope you and your wife are well. All the best

    Annabel. xx

  • Hi Jules,

    I hope you and all your family had a really great time especially at your grandson party.

    I am trying to get all Christmas presents for Daughter, Son and partners and grandaughter, and mother in law bought and wrapped by next Monday, then we are off down to Daughters to stay, and a day trip down to Hove to Mother in law and back home on the Friday. In between time hopefully will get to see son and his girlfriend as well.

    Zack sounds like he's doing really well with his weight. I don't know what Ava weighs but she is still in 0-3 months clothes. I sent some down this week which I had bought for Christmas and then thought OMG she might have already grown out of them, but they are still on the big side for her, Charlotte sent me a photo of her in some of them. So she is still petite but very lively looking now.

    Other half wanting me to do a job now so will come back and chat later.

    Annabel. xx

  • Hi Brian

    Glad the 'wood club' show went well and its great that you got some interest in your books as well.  Now its head down and getting the writing done to complete your grandson's new story.  You must have a head buzzing with ideas to achieve so much.

    We had a lovely time at the birthday party, as did the children.  One of the parents is a professional magician/balloonist so after the fun the bouncy castle/play tunnel/slide (indoors and huge!!) they had their party food and he performed magic tricks and made them all balloon animals/swords etc before they wearily went home.  My daughter finished feeding the baby and then we all made it home for around 6.30.  Glad it all went so well as had a message today to say the birthday boy has a double ear infection and had to go to the doctors rather than to school. Not nice at all but expect a few of the new toys he received will come in handy to help take his mind of the pain.  He has to go back in a couple of weeks to see if he needs treatment for glue ear and possibly grommets.  All part of childhood I guess!

    Hope you having a peaceful day after all the build up to the wood club event (and yes I did see the  beautiful pictures on the other thread and left a suitable comment. I hope!!).  Take care and kind thoughts are sent your way.  Jules x