Hi Dave,

Nice to hear from you again.  Lisa is doing so well if that's her 5 sessions into the treatment already, and it's good that her hair is only starting to fall now, I lost mine by my second session, all different though eh? How is she coping with everything, hopefully she will get her scan soon and get fingers crossed for a halt to the blighter.

The worst bit always seems to be the worry about finances doesn't it, you'd think there would be something in place to eleviate the stress, it's just something you don't need - have you spoken to McMillan Finances, you'll get the number from the nurses, unfortunately as i live alone, the kids are grown up and had sick pay from work I didn't qualify for anything, not even transport costs, which were huge as i was travelling 70 miles every day for treatment.

I hope the kids are doing ok to and you had as good a Christmas as possible.

Speak soon, take care

S x

thank you both as always your support is always welcome ,im afraid the financial aspect angers me intensely ,why should i not be able to spend every waking moment with my wife when she needs me most ,i feel so guilty that i will have to leave her alone with her fears while i trot off to work to feed and clothe us all,its bad enough we are going thru this without the added stress of money worries all the time ,i dread to think where we would be if we had not got some savings to back us up financially ,rant over ,bless you all ,keep smiling ,hopefully she will be home again tonight ,miss her so much when she goes in , cant imagine my life without her ,it scares me too much to even think about it ,

xxx

The money worries don't make life easy do they.  Mind you, you going back to work may help your "mental" state, you can escape for a few hours to the "normal" world, this in turn might give Lisa a bit of breathing space to, if the kids are at school, and providing she's well enough, trust me it's lovely to have everyone from out under your feet for a few hours, even to just have a bath and a wee lie on the sofa watch rubbish telly, the peace and quiet are bliss, it also gives you something else to talk about apart from being ill, it's nice when there's a funny story to tell about Tom from work, or some good news from Dick, or tales of when Harry met sally ,  I'm not trying to take away from the fact that your time together is very precious but there will come the day when you need to be there all day.  Take one day at a time.

Do you have someone who could take the kids for a few hours of a weekend and let you have some time together - did you say you're kids are quite young, that's a handful in itself, pity i wasn't nearer, i am a top "auntie" you know, speaking of which I have incoming just shortly - a 20 month old, time to move the ornaments.

Speak soon

S x

Cancer care is the place where we understand what is life and how instable it is. We can see there life and death facing together and it teach us the lesson how minute our life¿s are. There is no differentiation such as rich and poor, celebrity or common man, and everyone is the same in front of the disease.

Hi,understand completely my wife of 30 years was diagnosed with lung and pancreatic cancer.I try and be strong for her but every day I go into the back bedroom and break down it just never seems to end and I feel utterly dead inside or like being in some kind of horror film.Once I loose her I really do not know what I will do as my wife is and will always be my life.You're not alone.

Hi it’s a terrible thing this cancer I. Any imagine what you are going threw with a young family and wife it’s so easy for people to say stay strong with the pain I feel for you I really do  

I think I know what you are going through, yesterday my wife was diagnosed the Pancriatic cancer that we are told is terminal and she has only months to live.She is refusing Chemotherepy ,she says she values Quality over quantity,she is only 62, I am lost ,my daughter is in shock and I just dont know where to turn, I am also trying to be positive but .....................