Hi dave,

how are things going...hope Lisa is still doing ok, sickness at bay, and trying to look forward to Christmas and beyond.  hard to keep your chin up sometimes but I hope she's coping ok with the chemo.  another cycle done - is that her half way there now, only 3 to go, fingers crossed all is well

Keep in touch

S x

hi all,

thank you all for your unbending support ,it means so much ,i sometimes wish lisa would also use this site but she isnt the sort to share her feelings with anyone especially on the net ,i think she would find it so uplifting to talk with people in similar situations who all have this posative take it on it all,i try  i really do but i am not always successfull sometimes it justs creeps up on you from behind and the tears start falling ,its so selfish i know but pherhaps its the only way i can deal with it ,,lisa is currently in weston park on her third cycle of chemo and fingers crossed isnt too bad today apart from the runs ,but the sickness is not too bad they have given her a new drug which apperently is quite expensive to use but it seems to be doing the trick ,hoping for a good christmas if thats possable with all this happening but will certainly try ,my big fear at the moment is all the coughs and colds going around ,it seems everywhere you turn someone has a streaming cold and i am so scared of lisa catching this and it turning into something nasty ,if its not one thing its the other ,i will look at the work situation after xmas ,dont want to jinx it ,,it would be nice if i could get back at least part time but the practicalities are so far reaching it may not be realistic .i wish each and everyone of you the best christmas possable and i will toast you all on christmas day ..stay well ..hope to speak soon.

Hi Dave,

hope the third one went well and she's coping ok, sickness still at bay is a good thing, it's a really horrible feeling I can tell you (from experience), for 5 days after each cycle that was me, it lifts though.  Hopefully she's being kept comfortable and the drugs help....and who cares about the cost as long as she feels the benefit.

Hope you are looking forward toChristmas and Lisa will have a nice family time with everyone with her.

i know where she's coming from regarding being on site and sharing info, I was really wary to start with, lets face it folk could be anybody, but sometimes you just have to trust what folk are telling you, and I'm hardly an innocent young slip of a thing that is going to get suckered into anything - so don't ask for my bank details, unless it's to make a large deposit of course.

Hope you are well and looking after yourself

Keep in touch

s x

I am sorry to hear this, my husband was just diagnoised with stage 4 pancreatic cancer that has spreaded to his liver. And I know how you feel, but just wanted to let you know to hang in there. 

hi dave

hope lisa is doing ok, you must be a huge support to her, i am sure you are doing a fab job, damn well done you, hey, just blinking is a pressure at the mo, thinking of you dear man and love to lisa, i can also understand her not feeling able at the mo to share her thoughts, to do so is to confront them, that is hard enough, let alone in public, naive me, only just noticed how many " hits " this site gets, it kind of puts me off, too easy to think that we are chating to friends, but i guesse we are all here for a reason, even the silent ones . my thoughts are with you

rainbow

Hi Dave,

Just checking in - how is Lisa doing?

Hope she's comfortable and you manage to have as good a Christmas as possible.

Thinking about you

S x

Hi dave,

My heart goes out to you and your family. 

My dad was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer in April. Even though the tumour was only 1cm it had attached to the main artery therefore was inoperable .

It has been a rollacoaster since. Chemo unfortunately wasn't for dad, he became too ill on it and only had 2 doses.

His appetite went quite quickly, however he has just been allocated a Macmillan nurse who recommended pineapple (if he liked it, which he did). She advised either tin or fresh and even if he doesn't actually swallow any actual piece just the juice and sucking the fruit is refreshing and also helps with mouth hygiene. The good news is dad really enjoys it. Maybe if Lisa liked pineapple you could give that ago.  Dad hates the nutrient drinks and now point blank refuses to have them. He seems to like and tolerate small amounts of smoothies - banana and honey is is fav and we can only seem to buy this at morrisons. Also at the moment he can tolerate warm custard, diff flavours too. Apart from that dad really doesn't eat. I found if I left small bowls of sweets and nuts he would nibble. It can be frustrating when they won't eat and we see them getting weaker, I just try and remember we all don't want to eat when we feel ill. Bless them.

Dads Macmillan nurse has also arranged a psychologist for dad, which I am so happy about. I want dad to go with peace and as little fear as possible. At the moment he is so up and down. We just all go with the flow.

I totally understand about your worry in all the infections at the minute, I panic about this every day at the minute. People tell me constantly to slow down and stop panicking - it's hard to stop sometimes though and impossible to stop worrying!

Take care Dave and make some extra special memories this Christmas xxxxxx

Hi Dave again,

I forgot to mention dads Macmillan nurse also recommends dad do a day visit to the hospice (he will be, if he wants to go, to Rotherham hospice). Now dad isn't into that kind of thing, he won't read anything or go on any of these sites at all. However his nurse stated that they do all kinds of things eg, crafts, baking, quizzes, sports. Dad was interested in the quizzes so fingers crossed after Christmas he may go. I too think it would benefit dad chatting to someone who is going through the same thing.

Again have a special brave Christmas (I'm keeping away from the alcohol this year lol) xxx

Hi DGM,

Thought I would leave you alone over Christmas as sometimes nice to try and forget even with all the symptoms and chemo stuff to contend with...Jow did Christmas go, did you manage to get some quality family time in or was it a bit of a struggle....I do hope at least there was a small respite for you all. When you are ready let us know how things were and are?

Much Love

Tony xx