Hello Tizzy9, and welcome to the Cancer Chat community.

I hope you don't mind me stopping by but I was just reading through your very emotional and heartfelt post and wanted to let you know how sorry I am to hear what you're going through. I can't begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you but I want you to know that we are here for you and are sending you all our strength and support at this very challenging time.

Whilst coping with a cancer diagnosis can be very tough, your husband doesn't have the right to silence you and make you feel uncomfortable in your own home, especially now that it has got to the point where you feel unable to cope with this and don't want to be there anymore. 

I know you've mentioned your husband is somewhat of an introvert but due to the impact this is having on your relationship it may be time to let him know, if you can, how his actions are affecting you. If this isn't possible, then it may be worth exploring other channels such as counselling or speaking to someone at Relate about the difficulties you are having in your relationship. If things do not improve, or get worse, then don't hesitate to reach out to Women's Aid or Refuge. Hopefully you won't need to do that, but it's very important that you put you and your emotional well being first and do all you can to take care of yourself. 

You've been very brave by reaching out to us and we will do all we can to help but if you feel comfortable doing so, it may also be worth speaking to your GP about this. They will do all they can to support you and may be able to put you in touch with support groups in your local area where you can connect with others who are going through this too.

Cancer charities such as Maggie's offer free emotional and practical support to anyone that has been affected by cancer, including family and loved ones, so do think about getting in touch with them for further support and advice as well.

I hope it helps to know that we have had quite a lot posts like this on the forum over the years, so you are not alone Tizzy9, and hopefully some of our members will stop by soon to offer their support and advice. If it would help, you can also speak to one of our nurses on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

In the meantime, be kind to yourself Tizzy9 and know that you will find a way through this.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator