Hi all my mum has been diagnosed with cancer of rectum and a previous scan showed that it has spread to vagina. She had the scans when seriously ill just before major surgery to remove her colon so has no recollection of it. At the moment she is saying she is refusing scans and treatment. I’m struggling with this as obviously want her better . She seems fine at the moment although weaker as recovering from the major  surgery to remove large intestine. Any advice? She is extremely stubborn and so believed this may happen. Very hard to know what to do as also know I need to respect her wishes. I want to know prognosis and how aggressive the cancer is etc so i can prepare myself