My girlfriend has cancer and as a strong and active healthy self reliant woman this has really changed her I’m trying to support her but I’m out of my depth I need help
A warm welcome to our forum and I am so sorry to hear about your girlfriend's cancer diagnosis. It must be so hard for you too to see her like this when she used to be so strong and active. A cancer diagnosis can affect you in so many different ways so it's not unusual to notice a change and I completely understand why you are feeling out of your depth not knowing how to help her and what to do. I think the best thing you can do for her is to be yourself and show your girlfriend that you are there for her even during those tough moments, that you are there to support her and listen to her and I am sure she will appreciate it. There isn't one magic formula and I am sure you are doing great even if you may not feel like it at the moment. I thought I would also share with you our information for family, friends and carers which has a great section on how to support someone with cancer. There are so many little things, kind gestures that can go a long way and you will also learn more about the emotions your girlfriend might be feeling at the moment and how you can support her emotionally and also practically.
I just wanted you to know too that you are not alone and other members of our community may have been in your place before supporting a partner with cancer and they will know how hard it can be for loved ones. I hope that they will be along shortly with some good suggestions for you based on their personal stories and experiences.
