I’m currently staying with my Dad who is terminal with small intestine cancer that’s metastatic.

I haven’t stayed with my partner for around 2months now and she’s struggling with me not being there for her. She refuses to come and stay in the house that me and my Dad live in and wants me to book an Airbnb and go and stay in it locally so we can spend time together. I totally understand where she’s coming from but my Dad is quite reliant on me being around, I wake him up and give him his medication, make him food etc. He’s not really eating much anymore barely 2 small meals or meal replacements a day, his mood is low and his health deteriorating by the week. I told him about possibly leaving him alone for an evening and he broke out in cold sweats thinking about it. I’m sleeping on the sofa and could get in carers and pay them to stay overnight but I’d need to buy a bed and mattress to accommodate them as well as the cost of paying them.

I wish my partner would just give me a break and either just stay here or understand that I’m in a difficult situation that I can’t really get out of currently. She just can’t seem to understand, now it’s all about me / us not spending the money on carers so we can spend an evening together, but it’s not just the financial implication for me - it’s also about Dad having someone he trusts by his side.

I don’t know what to do really, has anyone else been in a similar situation?