My bf who’s going through cancer broke up with me

My bf who’s going through cancer has now broke up with me I have no clue what to do we been going through it for now 3 months he says he can’t take the responsibility it’s just come out of no where I’m a totally reck he told me he don’t wanna be friends and not to text or call him how can I just left everything we have been through go I’m hurting so much and wanna support him any advice is he pushing me away for me to pull him close ? What do I do I’m also scared I’ll never here form him again and he’s doing this all on his own he said he wants to focus on cancer and after the stemcell we mite get back together 

  • Hi Kitty_ayr22181,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to hear of your situation - I'm sure this must feel confusing.

    Sometimes people going through this can act emotionally different to those they're close to - sometimes it can possibly be as a bit of a defence mechanism to protect them. But of course it can often end up feeling very hurtful and upsetting.

    Perhaps it could be useful to write down how you feel - either just for your own sake, or as a letter that you could write to him. If you want to be there for him and to offer support, you can let him know that's how you feel. To a certain extent there is only so much you can do, so try to be kind to yourself through all this too.

    We have some information on our website about how to support someone with cancer - some of this may be useful.

    Hopefully you'll get some more replies from others on the forum soon.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator