Thank you for taking the time to read this 

My mum has terminal cancer and I want to know what I can do to help my mum, and our whole family. I'm the older sister and I feel I need to be doing more for my mum, my sister and her family and my family. 

Both my sister and I live about 2 hours from our mum (in opposite directions) and unfortunately we are not in a position where we can move closer. 

I want to help but don't know how too. I'm struggling with perimenopause and fudged up hormones and I know my mum and sister get upset when I'm emotional (understandable.)

We are stuck in limbo until march for her next scan, she can only have 1 lot of chemo, so they want to leave it as long as possible, I don't understand this but I'm not a Dr. 

She had an awful experience at Macmillan, the first time my mum met them the nurse said "well it's all down hill from here!" This was even before she introduced herself! My sister and I agreed this is out of order but my mum decided she didn't want to make a complaint.

She is struggling with side effects from past radiotherapy, where it has damaged her nerves in her back, which is causing so much pain. She keeps saying she doesn't know how much more she can take. The pain is awful and watching her in pain is hard but I need to be there for her, so any advice is gratefully received. 

I just want to make this horrible time a tiny bit easier for everyone. 

My mum is stubborn and doesn't like to accept help and her wishes are that she never goes into a hospice. So I just don't know what to do for the best.

Thank you for reading and any advice or nugget of info is very gratefully received. Rant over Xx