Hello Boyoboxer

I'm sorry to hear about the struggles that you're experiencing at the moment. It sounds like it's a really difficult time for both you and your husband, and it's understandable that having some support would be helpful right now. 

Do you have family or friends around you that could step in to help, or perhaps talk with your husband and explain that you need the support as you're struggling to cope? We know that lots of people experience changes in their loved ones' moods after a cancer diagnosis, and it can be really hard to manage these situations on a day-to-day basis. Who are the healthcare professionals looking after your husband? Is it just the hospital team, or are any community services supporting him at home as well? If you don't feel able or comfortable talking with those healthcare professionals while your husband is there, perhaps there is a specialist nurse you've been given contact details for? Or it may be that you call the GP surgery to talk with them about your situation. 

Hopefully some of the forum members who have been through similar experiences will reply soon to share their support and advice with you. In the meantime, if it would help to chat things through with one of our nurses, then you're most welcome to give them a call. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information and support they can. If you'd like to talk with them, they are available Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

Keep posting here on the forum if it helps to have a safe space to put down in writing how you're feeling. We're here for you. 

Sending you both my best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator