Struggling after radiotherapy has finished.Throat cancer

My husband has just finished 6 weeks of radiotherapy and chemo for throat cancer. We have been told it is going to get worse before it gets better. He is constantly sleeping and unable to eat anything. I think mentally he is coping ok and is very positive that he just needs to get through this. I’m really struggling though and feel like I have lost him as a person. He’s just an empty shell at the moment. Everytime I look online for positive stories and some hope, it ends up making me depressed as everything seems to be negative.  I know it is awful for him and I should he the strong one. But how do you cope when they’re not themselves anymore. I just feel sad and helpless. 

  • Hello Beckn1n2, and welcome to Cancer Chat.

    It's great to hear your husband's treatment has come to an end although I'm sorry for how difficult things have been for you both since he started on this journey. As you say, things may get a little worse before they get better but I hope this thread called Radiotherapy for throat cancer that was started on the forum 7 years ago and still going strong today, will show you both that despite the obstacles that may get in the way, there is most certainly light at the end of the tunnel.

    I hope this advice we have on how to support someone with cancer and taking care of yourself, as your mental and physical health are just as important as your husband's, will help you at this time but if you would like to talk things through with one of our cancer nurses, you can give them a call on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very insightful and will do all they can to support you at this very challenging time.

    Our members know just how tough this time can be so I'm sure you will receive some words of advice and support from the community soon.

    Caring for someone with cancer can be very tough, but remember that you are not alone Beckn1n2 and that we will always be here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator