Hello kel7

I'm sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis and that things are becoming more difficult as his health declines. Undoubtedly, this is a difficult time for you both. 

Please do reach out to the district nursing team. They are not only there just for when he is unable to take medication orally, but also as a point of support for you both. They will be able to arrange any necessary equipment that would make life easier for you both, organise for nutritional support if he is struggling to eat, arrange for his GP to visit if a medical review is needed, or ask the local community hospice or carers to support you both if needed. The two of you don't need to struggle alone, so please give your district nursing team a call. 

If it would ever help to talk with one of our nurses for advice and support, you're most welcome to call them. I know they will be happy to listen and help in any way they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

In terms of your question, are you doing enough/right by your husband? I think your post demonstrates that you love your husband very much, and I don't doubt that you are doing all you can to make sure he is comfortable and cared for. Hopefully, talking with the district nurses and knowing that there is support available 24/7 if needed will give you some further reassurance. 

Keep in touch if it helps to have a safe space to put down in writing how you're feeling or ask questions kel7. We're here for you. 

Sending you both my very best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator