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Looking for women/mid 30s who have loved one going through cancer

Bm1987
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Hi everyone,

One of my dear friends’ partners has been going through cancer. He’s young (early 30s) and has already faced both radiotherapy and chemotherapy. My friend is finding this time incredibly tough -balancing being a carer and emotional support while also trying to navigate her own life, career, and everything else that comes with it.

She recently mentioned feeling quite alone in this journey and would love to meet other women around her age who have a loved one going through cancer - just to talk, share, and feel a little less isolated.

I feel so helpless watching her go through this and wanted to see if anyone here might be in a similar position, or knows someone who is. My friend is in her early 30s, works in marketing, and lives in London. If this resonates, I’d love to help connect you. 

  • Hi Bm1987,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm sorry to hear of the situation with your friend and her partner. I'm sure this must be really tough and a lot to deal with - it's lovely you are reaching out for support for her.

    Firstly, hopefully this forum can be of some use to you/her - even if she wants to also sign up to write things down and to connect. My reply here will give your post a little boost, so a few more people should see it and hopefully you'll get more replies.

    We have some information on our website about taking care of yourself when supporting someone with cancer. It may not all be relevant, but perhaps some of the information may be useful - and there are some links about other places to seek support too.

    Wishing you, your friend and her partner all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi, my partner has just been diagnosed, I’m not in my 30’s I’m 45 but I understand how your friend is feeling, I feel totally overwhelmed and am trying to get my head around how I’m going to navigate the next few months

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    Hi Murphs, thank you so much for replying ️. I’m so sorry to hear your partner has just been diagnosed. Watching my friend go through it, I‘ve seen how much of a challenging thing it is to navigate. Have you found a support network, or where have you turned for support? I’d love to help here connect with others in a similar situation, but don’t know where to start… 

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    Hi, My partner was diagnosed in October with breast cancer, I am doing what I can to Support her with the limited time i am able to take of work. I have taken up working nights so that i can be at home when she is awake, I often feel like your friend that I am feeling helpless in all this. I know im doing what i can but that feeling just will not go away. 

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    Thank you for your message, Steph and I’m so sorry to hear about your partner’s diagnosis. It sounds like you’re being incredibly supportive. Where abouts are you based in the UK?

  • Offline in reply to Bm1987

    Thank you, 

    im based in Scotland. 

    My partner has had a mastectomy and then was told she had 3 different types of cancer and will more than likely progress into her left breast

    please tell your friend I will be happy to chat to them if they so need. 

    unfortunately we are in the same boat here. 

  • Offline in reply to Steph20198

    Thank you so much for your response and again, I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

    I’m sure she would love that! How would be best to connect you? X

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