Mother with late stage cervical cancer

Hi, i’m a young adult looking for some advice after being told my mothers cancer has come back. Things are very different this time round and i feel like i have mentally been affected more the second time. I’m sure alot of you can relate but i feel as though it’s eating me alive, the constant fear, constant worry ive not done enough, constant need to do more incase she won’t be here to see the events in my life most people need there mum for: childbirth,marriage,job opportunities, starting/finishing uni, etc.

She is in palliative chemotherapy and has been told that there will most likely be nothing that can be done if that fails. I just genuinely don’t know how to put into words how much of a horrible experience this is and is for anyone going through similar situations. I feel as though no one around me can relate or understand what i’m going through without having been through something similar. It affecting me in ways i’ve never felt before and i can feel myself being consumed by the fear of it all.

  • Hi there 

    I don’t know if it helps at all but I just wanted you to know that I know how you are feeling. I’m a bit older than you but my mum is going through the same thing but without treatment as she is older and it’s too late.

    i completely understand how helpless you feel and just wanted you to know that.

    it is all consuming. It is scary. I relate to you.  No one really can if they’re not going through it.  And it’s impossible to explain. 
    im so sorry. Happy to chat if it will help xx

  • Hi, honestly your message means so much to me. To have someone hear how I feel and relate in such a way is a relief. I’m sorry to hear what you are going through aswell. I can feel your pain, similar or not, of having to go through this. Thank you for helping me and i am more than happy to do the same for you x

  • It was a relief for me too, honestly, It sucks so much. The fear and the helplessness is real.

    I promise you though that no matter what happens  we wil get through this.

    I am here for you if you need 

  • Yes we will! we are strong individuals no matter what. 

    hopefully knowing you’ve helped someone in a similar situation can ease the pain youre feeling.

    Thank you.