Hi Annjoe19, 

Poor you, you have been through so much lately. I am so sorry to hear your mum is in pain and not eating much and is facing chemotherapy after post lung cancer surgery. Going through all this when you have only recently lost your dad must be so traumatic and it's so sad that your mum is not accepting any help from anyone at the moment. It's so nice of you to go twice a day to sit with her and to show her your love and support. Those little practical gestures like cleaning can also be so incredibly helpful. 

It is totally understandable that you will be needing to go back to work at some point but it's hard not to worry about your mum being left alone and you will obviously want someone to check on her to make sure she is ok. If your sister is not going to be helping too much, it might be worth looking into other forms of support so that you don't have to deal with everything yourself. We have useful information on our website for Family, Friends and Carers which will tell you more about how to support someone with cancer but also making sure you find time for taking care of yourself which is not always easy when you are juggling caring, working and so many other things. Have a look too at our section on support available at home which highlights the different types of practical and emotional support you can access to make sure your mum has the care and support she needs. It's worth being aware of who can help and provide support during this difficult time. Don't hesitate too to get in touch with organisations like Carers UK for advice and guidance in your difficult situation. 

Hopefully you will also hear from the insights of other members of our community who have been in a similar place before and I am sure they will have some good tips for you based on their own experiences of looking after a loved one with cancer. 

It's so sad what is happening to your mum so shortly after your dad passed away but I am sure sure realises how lucky she is to have you by her side trying to ensure she is ok. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator