Scared and alone

I am so scared about what the future holds for my mum. I am caring for her as all other family live so far away. It’s been a whirlwind of a time as we found out she had cancer by surprise just a few weeks back, following a routine blood test. She had no symptoms. 

This led to scans and then surgery to remove a large tumour that had been hiding, but doing damage no one knew about. It’s almost been 3 weeks and no biopsy results yet, but that means they’re coming this week!

I don’t know what the future holds. When will she start chemo? What happens next? I know she is scared too, but we don’t talk about it much. She’s always been the strong one, the brave one, the one who would fight anything. 

Can anyone offer advice to help me through these early days please? She doesn’t have another appointment now until November!

  • You might get a phone call about the biopsy results, I did, but you can always phone them and ask them when you will receive results. 

    I got my biopsy results two weeks after my surgery and then I had to wait to heal from that before the chemo. Every case is different. On the NHS there is what they call a two-week pathway. I probably started to chemo 6 weeks after surgery. 

    Obviously I can't be sure but to me it seems a good sign that she doesn't have an appointment until November. 

    Everything was rushed through with me because my tumour was confirmed as malignant after surgery.

    Apart from making phone calls to try and find out information from the hospital, try and remain optimistic and float from day to day. Love to you.

  • Reply if you think I haven't properly understood the situation for your mum. 

    I might be able to add some information. I had a 60 mm tumour hiding in the colon that I knew nothing about. No symptoms whatsoever. Fit, active, not overweight good diet, no alcohol non smoker but 73 so it seems to happen later in life for some

  • Thank you for your reply and kind words. You are a similar age to my mum and she has also always been fit, healthy and a non smoker etc. It seems cruel when some people live life awfully, yet are spared this awful disease. 
    I hope you are feeling well at the moment and not suffering too much. I am grateful for the NHS and can’t fault the treatment she’s had so far.