So scared

My wife was diagnosed with stage 4 Pancreatic cancer last week with the cancer also being in the lining of her brain

we declined to know the guesstimate if how long she has left but I know it’s only a few months.

the cancer has broken one of her vertebrae so she is currently in hospital having had radiation on her back, awaiting a procedure to repair the vertebrae and ready to start chemo (which could add a month or 2)

we have twins who have just turned 2, it was a huge struggle to get pregnant and to have children and now after only 2 years with them that’s it, so angry so unfair 

I’m utterly terrified of what’s to come, being alone to bring them up, mourning her loss, trying my best to keep her alive in their thoughts and memories

im so scared

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat, Scared_Daddy.

    I’m sorry to hear about your wife’s diagnosis. It sounds like everything has happened so quickly, and I can only imagine how overwhelming it must feel right now, especially with your twins still so little.

    It’s completely understandable to feel angry and terrified, you're facing something incredibly hard, and the love you have for your wife and your children comes through so clearly in your words.

    You’ve done the right thing by reaching out. I hope that others who’ve been through something similar will see your post and offer some support or share what helped them cope during such a painful time.

    If you ever feel like talking things through with someone might help, our nurses are available on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.

    Take things one step at a time, Scared_Daddy and remember that we’re here for you.

    Best wishes to you and your family,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator