Anxious, stressed and tearful - found out in June mum has breast cancer. Really struggling with it and finding it hard to be strong

Back in June, we found out mum has breast cancer. I’m really struggling with it, often tearful most days and incredibly anxious at the thought it could’ve spread. She has recently had scans to determine whether there is any spread, her lymph nodes so far look clear, but they want to be extra sure before beginning treatment. It’s so hard to be strong all the time knowing there is nothing I can do to make it better, don’t know if anyone feels the same? 

Thanks Harriet 

  • Hello Harriet and welcome to Cancer Chat,


    I’m so sorry to hear how much you’re struggling right now.


    Hearing that a loved one has breast cancer is incredibly tough, and it’s completely understandable to be feeling tearful, anxious, and overwhelmed. You're not alone in this, and many people here will really understand what you're going through.


    The waiting, especially for scan results, can be one of the hardest parts. Even when the signs so far are reassuring, the uncertainty can feel overwhelming.


    You might find this page from our website with information on family, friends, carers and cancer helpful as it offers advice for family members and loved ones trying to cope with a cancer diagnosis


    If you’d ever prefer to talk to someone one-to-one, our nurses are here on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.


    Please do keep posting if it helps, Harriet. We’re here for you.


    All the best to you and your mum,


    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator