Hello Jeff2000

I'm so very sorry to hear about your wife's diagnosis and that she is no longer receiving treatment. I know how hard it can be to see a loved one decline in this way and it's understandable that you're struggling to cope emotionally with this. 

You mention palliative care in your post. Has your wife been referred to the team? Has someone been to visit or are they visiting on a regular basis to see how things are progressing for you both? If the palliative team have not been in touch then do talk with your GP surgery and ask for a referral. If you've been referred but not seen anyone for a while then contact the team and tell them you're struggling and you want a visit. The palliative care team should be a point of contact for discussing care needs, both for your wife and also for you as well so do let them know how you're feeling at the moment. 

If you'd like to talk with one of our nurses for some advice and support you're welcome to call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information and support they can. 

Keep in touch with us here in the Cancer Chat community if it helps to have a safe space to put down in writing how you're feeling Jeff. We're here for you. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator