Being there for mum

My mum was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2019. She’s had six lines of chemotherapy and hormonal treatment. She was recently referred for trials but is not eligible for them. Her cancer has been progressing and if she does not respond to this line of treatment the consultant said she’s likely to have under 12 months left to live. I’m finding this really hard to cope with. I’m almost in denial. I have no idea how to manage it and I find myself shutting it out. I’m not sure what I’m asking here but maybe just your stories or some words of encouragement. I’m an only child, I’m all my mum really has and I love her so much. I hate seeing her go through this alone but I’m struggling to be there for her because if I’m there for her it’s real. 

  • Hello Mmums and welcome to Cancer Chat,

    I'm very sorry to hear about what you and your mum are going through. Hearing this kind news about a parent isn't easy, and all these emotions you're feeling is perfectly natural. At difficult times, it's ok to lean on those close to you, if you're able, and discuss further support with your consultant if needed. Communication with others can help you to process things, but it's important that it's at your own pace and that you feel comfortable. If you find you're ever struggling, we have guidance on coping with cancer on our website, which you can refer to at anytime. It also has advice for family members affected by cancer, which I hope will be useful in some way.  

    Please know that you're not alone and this forum is here for you whenever you need it. If you or your mum had any medical questions and would like to speak someone over the phone, you can contact one of our cancer nurses on the freephone 0808 800 4040. Lines are open 9 to 5 Monday to Friday.

    All the best of you,

    Moderator Anastasia