My husband was diagnosed stage 4 oesophageal cancer march 23.  I have had rollercoaster emotions. No family live in same county all at least 2 hours drive. All on me alone to cope with ally husbands health he also has neurological brain disease. I am resentful and angry his brother and sister don't even phone. My 2 children work long hours but hardly phone more than once a week. Our neighbours don't bother more than say hi if pass them in street. Friends dropped away even though I never put any self pity on them I ensured that, they simply dropped away... I'm feeling that people are so selfish and I have lost all faith in people. I know when the time comes I'm going to unleash my anger at anyone who dares come crying of his loss because they have not bothered whilst he's here. I know he's feeling it too. He would never say.. how could they not call him at least a couple times a week to talk to him? I'm beginning to get more resentful of them ignoring him. He who would benefit from having others to talk to besides me and in their leaving me all alone to handle everything, they don't call me either or ask how I'm coping. When any have visited I'm literally worked ragged cooking and running around after them too. I am exhausted mentally and physically tired. How can I control my feelings so I can continue to act for hubby and avoid unleashing a full torrent on them for their cruelty lack of support lack of showing love and kindness to a dying man? I'm also under my own mental struggles with the impact on everything losing my husband is having on my life and on my future. I'm having to sell the house as will not afford it on own and the pressure under a poor housing market is taking its toll on me too.  I'm 55. He is 62.  I just need people to understand they have responsibility to him. I have texted them to ask them to contact him it starts ok week or 2 then falls off again.  I just don't understand why people are so selfish absorbed.