Hi I’m a 71 year old woman looking after my husband who has prostate bladder and bone cancer. I had lung cancer er myself 4 years ago had a lower right lobectomy and glad to say I’m clear but still get checked. My husband is undergoing chemotherapy again first time 9 years ago. He’s not doing great list 5 1/2 stone and very frail. No appetite and I’ve tried everything I can to get him through eat. He’s now getting the Esure drinks to try and help. 
My problem is I’m really trying my best for him but struggling with the day to day issues. I know he’s weak but he won’t do anything to help himself he just sits about and the inly time he moves us to go to the bathroom. I’m just so tired all the time I have some health problems and severe back and hip pain so I struggle at times. People offer to help with shopping but my husband flatly refuses and says we’re fine and won’t accept help if any kind. I’m at my wits  end and exhausted have no one I can really talk to. I love my husband very much and don’t want anything to happen to him but feel so guilty feeling like I would like someone to take him out and give me a break as we’re with each other 24/7.  He just doesn’t want anyone just me.