Hi everyone I’m not quite sure what I’m doing I’m currently looking after my mum who has terminal lung cancer I feel so lost and also feel very guilty for thinking of myself while my mum goes through all this if you get what I mean
First off all just want to send a big virtual hug.
It was a feeling I had when I was caring for my mum when she had terminal cancer. I spoke to her about these feeling and she assured me that I mustn't think like that and told me in know uncertain terms that I had to take care of myself as well as her.
There was nothing more anyone could do to change the cards she had been dealt but she insisted on openly talking about how we were feeling, even though I thought it was last thing she needed. However i think, in hindsight, she was just making sure we would be alright after she passed. She enjoyed hearing about the things i got up to and places I had visited inbetween caring for her whilst she was ill and I suppose it brought a bit of normality into her life.
Guilt is something we all experience when faced with a loved one with a terminal illness, please don't be so hard on yourself and try to find someone you can talk to about your feelings, it really does help.
