Hi porgy,

Welcome to Cancer Chat. It's good to hear that your husband is doing well.

I can understand your questions and difficulties that you mention. It will be the relevant doctor who is best placed to advise on your question about what to potentially expect.

You may also find it helpful to speak to one of our nurses. If you'd like to do this, you can either post in the 'Ask the Nurses' section of this forum, or call freephone 0808 800 4040 - Monday-Friday, 9-5.

And in the meantime, hopefully you'll get more replies to your post soon.

Wishing you all the best,

Ben
Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello porgy,

                    l read your post and recalled my own skirmish wish Liver cancer, well more of a battle really. l was fortunate in that it was picked up pre bowel resection, and that they operated on the Liver first. Six months from bowel cancer diagnosis, three months from finishing chemo/radio, three months from previous scan. Operation was two weeks later and my surgeon informed me that a further two weel delay would have seen him unable to proceed.

Your post set against my experience demonstrates clearly that all things are not equal in cancer, and points to the difficulties doctors have when they give out a "bestimate".This they do in order to give some sense of meaning of their patients future in order for them to have the time to come to terms with the diagnosis, find some solid ground again and bring their affairs into order.

l can understand you say you wish you never knew, l rushed around to get a large house and business sold and get a smaller bungalow built for my wifes future due to an initially very bleak outlook

In simple terms it would appear that l got the Linford Christie cancer version when he was at his prime,and your husband got it when Linford was in his dotage and wheelchair bound.

For me it was operable and the post surgery chemo battered it and very nearly me into submission, for your husband it would seem that it is much more sedate and slower moving, so l would hope that his "piece of string" is a sight longer than most would normally expect

l was once told its a good job we cannot see into our future since it might put us off from living in the present,which seems to fit with your own predicament. l just wish many more joyful moments ahead of you and that you can savour each and every one,

go gently onwards,

 David

Thank you David.  You have opened my eyes and yes, it is good we cannot see into the future.  We will indeed savour each day.  I sincerely hope you remain well and have a long and very happy life.  Your comments are very much appreciated.   

Thank you Ben.