My partner has been diagnosed with terminal bowel and stomach cancer. I feel so helpless as there is nothing I can do

I met my partner 2 years ago and she was very open with me about cancer in the bowel and treatment she was having and now it’s in the stomach. She has been diagnosed as terminal but having a second opinion etc etc in a couple of days. She is in so much pain and the tablets are not really helping her now and she eats just a couple of spoonfuls of food and then throws it right back up with blood in it. I feel so helpless as there is nothing I can do at all apart from trying to support her where I can. She has tried over and over for me to leave her so I don’t go through the pain of watching her deteriorate. That is not going to happen I am so in love with her and I finally found someone who filled my emptiness that I had and it was love at first sight. I feel so much and see so much and I can only watch and this is horrible for her. I am trying so hard to give her the best I can do just came back from Devon made memories but this is not enough there is so much I want to do for her on her bucket list and finances restrict me so much. I wish I could do all she wanted before the end. #feeluseless 

  • Hi PeterMcA9, I just want to say that feeling helpless is a common feeling, but it sounds like you are doing everything you can to support your partner. Giving love and care is just what is needed at this time. My partner and I used to love to travel and I still occasionally arrange short holidays but, to be honest, it’s hard work for both of us and we’re always relieved to get back home. So don’t worry about not being able to do things on the bucket list. It’s the little things you do that start to matter - a back-rub, watching TV together, just letting them know that you’re there for them….