Hi Tunefil,

How difficult it must be to be dealing with both with your own cancer and that of your partner endorsing at the same time the role of carer for your loved one whilst being a cancer patient yourself. I am glad though that you are dealing well with the targeted therapy Osimertinib. I am so sorry to hear your partner had sepsis and was very poorly and I hope that he will be able to resume chemotherapy soon and that his stomach issues ease when he is back on chemotherapy again. It's beautiful how you are supporting each other but because his needs are at the moment greater you are doing everything you can to be by his side and keep on top of things. Is there anyone else who could give you a hand so that you can get some well deserved rest? You are in the incredibly tough position of being a cancer patient and a carer at the same time and if I were you I would perhaps get in touch with your doctor or medical team and explain the situation and ask whether there is any kind of help you and your partner could have even practical help that you could be entitled to given you both have stage 4 cancer. Have a look too at our page on who can help which will give you some good pointers and I would also suggest you give our cancer nurses a call on this free number 0808 800 4040 - their helpline is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm and it might help to talk things through with them. 

I hope that you will hear from other members of our community who have been down a similar road and that they will be along shortly to share their experience with you. We're thinking of you and your partner during this difficult time and I wanted you to know that you are not alone. You're going through a very challenging time both dealing with your own cancer and that of your partner and I hope you manage to speak to someone and that you access all the help you can get.

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator