Relative recently diagnosed with stage 4 brain tumour - how can I support them and myself?

Hi,

Firstly thank you for providing this space to share thoughts and support others

A relative of mine was recently diagnosed with a brain tumour, very quickly underwent surgery and is now receiving radiotherapy. Unfortunately the prognosis is terminal and it's been a huge shock to the whole family because they are only in their 20s. We are also dealing with illness of older relatives as well as raising young families all at the same time.

I think I have been in denial which I know is not healthy long term so I'm trying to process it but it's incredibly difficult. I wanted to ask what are some ways I can be supporting both them and myself? Or has anyone experienced a similar situation? An added difficulty is that I live some distance from my family as well, and my immediate family are not the best at talking about difficult things.

Thanks,

Rose

  • Hi Rose and welcome to Cancer Chat.

    I just came across your post and wanted to let you know how sorry I am to hear that one of your family members has been diagnosed with a stage 4 brain tumour at such a young age.

    This must be such a difficult time for you all, especially when you are dealing with the illnesses of older relatives as well, but I'm glad you've decided to join our online community as we have a lot of members who are in a similar position, so you are not alone on this journey Rose, and I'm sure it won't be long until you receive some support and advice.

    I hope this information we have for family, friends and caregivers will enable you to support your family member whilst looking after yourself, but if you would like to speak to one of our cancer nurses about any of this you can give them a call on 0808 800 4040. Their phone lines are open Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m and they will do all they can to support you and address any other questions and/or concerns you may have at this time.

    We're thinking of you Rose and sending all our strength and support to you and your family.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator