Hello Tattykes83

I'm so sorry to hear that your Mum was told earlier this week that her cancer has returned. Undoubtedly, that's news that no one wants to hear, and I can understand how difficult these past few days will have been for you whilst she waits for further tests and information. 

I've read many posts on this forum over the last 13 years where family and friends of an individual who has been diagnosed with cancer have said "but it's not about me", and yes, to a certain degree, that is true. However, please don't minimise the impact that your Mum's diagnosis has had, and will continue to have, on you and those around her. You absolutely have the right to feel overwhelmed by a rollercoaster of emotions. And it's okay to acknowledge that you feel that way. In fact, it often helps to begin to process those thoughts and emotions by acknowledging them. 

Undoubtedly, talking with someone for some support could be very helpful. It may be that there is another family member or friend that you can confide in. Someone who perhaps is also feeling overwhelmed by this news and might find some relief in knowing they are not the only one feeling this way. It may be that there is an organisation such as Maggie's in your local area where you can call in for a cuppa and a chat with a cancer support specialist. Or it might be that you would like to talk with one of our nurses for some support. They're available Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

I know whilst you're waiting for more tests and news that it's really difficult to not look to the future and to worry about the what ifs. What I would say is try not to dwell too much on those possibilities, as they will leave you feeling more anxious and unsettled. Concentrate on the here and now and what you do know. You've said in your post that your Mum has been feeling much more like herself again, so use this time before any more treatment might start to spend time together doing things that you both enjoy. Sometimes a little normality can be a great chance to catch your breath. 

I hope that your Mum doesn't have to wait too long for answers and that when the specialists have a full overview of her health that they are able to give you some reassurance. Keep in touch Tattykes83, and let us know how you both get on. We're here for you. 

Sending you both my best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator