Caring for my parents

My dad got diagnosed not long ago with lymphoma and my mum has her own health issues which limits what she can physically do. My dad works full time and my mum looks after the house. They both struggle with stuff that would be considered as easy and they get tired more easily. I'm grateful that my dad was diagnosed early and for the moment it's not progressive. I'm away from home due to work for weeks, even months at a time when I'm overseas. I try my best to help while I'm home but I feel like I should be doing more, I want to do more. It's just difficult when I have obligations to my job. I also struggle finding someone to talk to about it. I deffinatly feel a mental and emotional strain personally. They're both coping and doing the best they can but it dosnt stop that strain I feel. 

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat Anonymous43, although I'm sorry for to hear your dad has been diagnosed with lymphoma and for the worry this and your mum's health issues are causing.

    It must be incredibly difficult to be away from your parents for weeks, and sometimes months, at a time but your post clearly shows how much you care for your parents and that you're doing all you can to support them. I'm sure they really appreciate everything you do for them when you are at home so try and be kind to yourself when these thoughts start to emerge.

    I hope this information we have on how to support someone with cancer and the support at home that may be available to you and your family will be useful but if you'd like to discuss any of this further with one of our cancer nurses, they're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very insightful and will do all they can to answer your questions and address any other worries or concerns you may have about your parent's situation at this time.

    So many of our members know how challenging caring for someone with cancer and health issues in general can be, so you are not alone Anonymous43, and I hope you will receive some support and advice from them soon.

    Take care of yourself Anonymous43 and remember that we will always be here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator