Hi thank you to all that reads my post, my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years in which it has not been an easy relationship after my boyfriend would leave me if he didn't like something I said or he would block me on social media. This would be consistent but I am a person that will see the good in somebody as he has a lovely side, and really tried to make it work.
Back in April 2024 my boyfriend was diagnosed with a brain tumour, it was a very emotional time for us both, and I decided to take some time off work. My work was amazing, and very supportive, as soon as my partner was diagnosed with this tumour, he asked me to marry him at the time. I was worried because our relationship has been a very on-off relationship, but I wanted to support him and make him happy, so we got married August 2024 it was a beautiful day, and maybe I was being a bit naive I was hoping that our relationship would get better because I felt in my heart that he would value his life and myself , I stood beside him throughout the operation, stayed in a hotel supporting his mum through it all hand was beside him for the days he was in hospital since then he's had a radiotherapy, and his moods would vary, he would shout at me like it was before we got married, I was told that he had always been like this, he said he would move in, but his son who lives with him whos 21, said I would only move in if I have my own room in which wasn't possible as I have twins of opposite sex, my husband cannot work and he is spending the money he gets on his private rented property, he has two big dogs, that need a lot of exercise and no one does it, he's a hoarder and I've offered to help and sort it out and he gets aggressive, shouts at me, keeps telling me he wish he never married me, or says end thr relationship, or days in thr next message I love you, my metal health is suffering. He's now saying to me that he doesn't wanna live in my house. He wants me to get a different house, he's accumulating a lot of debt now as well, ehen hes so many things he coukd sale yo get rid if it, I said to him he needs to sort it out and I would support him, his answer is you just want me to have nothing and that I'm selfish we haven't seen each other for a week, and I'm starting to have mixed emotions, sadly! Does anybody have any ideas of what I can do? I'm now thankfully back at work as I work in a hospital, I needed some normality! But I dont know what more I can do, or whats for the best anymore. My twins are leaving school this year, they have exams coming up, my mum has also has been recently diagnosed with Cancer, and my dad is disabled with one leg... who I am there for to, someone please help me - thank you x