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Sending messages to loved ones after death

Bowen2517
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I know there are many who have sent milestone videos or cards to their children to watch at milestones during their lives. I wonder if there are any who have done this and which milestones would be good. I thought of the obvious 18th,21st, engagement, wedding, first baby etc. 

also, do you think this is a help or a hinderance? Would it stop a person from moving on or would it be a comfort. Would the grief return when they realise there are no more messages? 
I am thinking about sending this idea and buying cards for my friend who has been given weeks to live and has 2 children under 10.et me know if you think this is a good idea or not. 

thank you in advance!  Xx

  • Hello Bowen2517

    I'm sorry to hear about your friend's diagnosis. Undoubtedly this is a difficult time for everyone close to your friend and it's lovely that you want to offer any support and help that you can. 

    I think your question really is down to the individual and how they feel about leaving messages for loved ones to receive in the future. I don't know if you're able to talk with your friend about this idea and see what they think about it? If they'd like to go ahead with leaving cards then perhaps the two of you together could decide what occasions the cards may be for and you can support your friend to achieve this. 

    I hope that your friend is being well supported by those around them. Remember to take care of yourself as well. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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