Hello Barb_0007

I'm sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis. It sounds like it's a difficult time for you all and natural that you would have some questions and concerns about things. 

We do have some information on our website about pancreatic cancer that may be of help to you in trying to come to terms with the news that your Mum has shared with you. It might also be helpful for you to talk things through with one of our nurses. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information and support they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. You might also want to have a read through the information on our website about taking care of yourself.

It sounds from your post as if your Mum is being plain with you and perhaps trying to soften the blow for your brother. At times like this family dynamics can make things difficult. Perhaps you could talk to your Mum about this. It may simply be that she feels she is able to be completely honest with you and doesn't necessarily need to protect you from what is going on with her health. 

I do hope that your Mum and the whole family get the support you need as she navigates this difficult time in her life. Don't forget that the Cancer Chat community is here for you so keep in touch if it helps to have a safe space to put down in writing how you're feeling. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator