My dad has advanced prostate cancer

My dad's cancer has now spread to his brain. I think sometimes because of the panicky feelings its easy to go into fixer mode but this can't be fixed. What I've been trying to do recently is focus on making sure he's comfy and cosy and making the most of a better day. Chatting, making him something tasty or watching a couple of episodes of only fools and horses together like today. I do keep getting overwhelmingly sad when I'm alone but want to focus on helping him with his wishes to stay out of hospital and spend time with his family, albeit from his bed or wheelchair, and supportibg my mum. Can someone tell me if it's possible to get his bloods taken at home before his oncology appts, its so hard now he can't really walk and it wears him out. He's still having chemo at the moment, but the trips to the hospital totally exhaust him. Thank you in advance 

  • Hi, so sorry to hear about your Dad. My Dad has advanced prostate cancer, that has spread to the bones and liver. We have District Nurses coming out and they are able to take bloods. Maybe this can be arranged for your Dad too. I can empathise with your situation, as my Dad gets worn out by his hospital visits too. He also has dementia so that’s really difficult to manage on top of the cancer. Hope you get something sorted out.

  • Hi there, can I ask what symptoms your dad had in the prostrate cancer having spread to the brain?   My husband has stage 4 metastatic prostrate cancer and he has been a living nightmare for over 2 years.   He refused radiotherapy when he was first diagnosed due to the side effects and have been on HT and hormone injections now for well over 2 years.  We believe he had psychosis on Enthuzalmide but there was some discussion as to whether the cancer had spread due to his bizarre behaviour.  He is paranoid, was hallucinating and basically stalked me for a year at work which has meant I lost my job.  He believed I was having affairs with everyone around and was arrested several times.  He refused a scan on his head when it was offered - I am desperate and incredibly sad.