Hello suecoach and welcome to Cancer Chat,

I can understand you're in a difficult position. It's not an easy decision to make and will need further discussions with your family and the healthcare team, but you can view some guidance around end of life care in hospital on the NHS website, which will hopefully give you a better idea about palliative care in the UK. You can also read more about how you can get support at home.

You are also welcome to speak to one of our cancer nurses about your relative's diagnosis, you can call our free helpline on 0808 800 4040. Lines are open 9 to 5 Monday to Friday.

I hope this helps and that you'll be able to make a decision together as a family.

Moderator Anastasia

thankyou so so much; that is top advice

Great advice below. My advice is that normally the hospital (or GP) will normally do a refferal to the palliative care team, there is no harm in asking then to do one. (It's always good to have a plan) They aren't just for end of life support they do a range. 

Hopefully once you have the biopsy back, they will form a plan with you, link with a GP though as they can be great at getting pain management under control and link with district nurses etc. I hope she isn't in too much pain.