Hello, I don’t really know how to start but my mum was diagnosed with stage 2B cervical cancer in August 2023 after 5 weeks of chemo and radiotherapy she then went on for 3 sessions of brachytherapy. 

we’ve since waited 12 weeks she had an MRI followed by a PET scan. I was convinced it was going to be good news and we could go on with our lives putting this behind us. She was diagnosed just 4 months after her 60th birthday. 

fast forward it’s results day, we’re called in. The oncologist is asking if she’s having and side effects or symptoms of treatment and how she has been etc. only to tell us the cervical cancer has gone. Then seconds later saying that there is a spot on each lung and 2-3 spots showing in the lymph nodes above her stomach. 

At this point we’re both in shock. I can’t believe it. The oncologist didn’t say a lot bar the fact she will need a lung biopsy (have chased this and should be hearing on Monday) she’s booked in with a new oncologist in Feb which I assume we get results.

i am really struggling to find and form of peace as I hate the not knowing and not having an understanding of what’s going on and if she is going to survive this. The oncologist said if it is cancer it would be incurable and there is no operation for it. It would likely be chemo every 3 weeks. But then proceeded to say she can’t be certain or say anymore until the biopsy results are back. So hearing incurable is imbedded in my head and I am worrying myself sick. 

I try and do research but I have been advised by friends in healthcare that this isn’t a good idea and anything you search is likely not from a reliable source and everyone’s prognosis is different. I just want to know that she’s not in immediate danger and could live for a long time yet. 

the not knowing is making me unwell and I just want to be strong for her  

Thank you to anyone that reads all of this and takes the time to reply.