Hi Zoey.A, 

It's so sad that your mum's body is shutting down and that she is so tired all the time. It must be so hard for you and your partner to know what to do and it's so nice of you to be looking after her. It can be so hard to be a carer and I am sure many other members of our community who find themselves in your position or have done so in the past will be able to relate to the feeling you describe of trying to keep things as normal as possible for her but also trying to be inventive to keep her mind occupied. I think your idea of puzzles or cards is a lovely one - games can be a welcome distraction and will help your mum focus on something other than her illness and hopefully she can have a good time this way too while playing games with her loved ones. 

I am sure other members of our community will be along shortly with some good suggestions for you. We have some great information on our website for Family, friends and caregivers which you might find interesting where you will find out more about how to support someone with cancer without forgetting - and this is also very important - to take care of yourself and find time to recharge your batteries. It might be worth also getting in touch with Carers UK who give support to carers in situations like yours. 

Let us know if you get a chance whether your mum enjoyed doing puzzles and cards and I hope that things are not too tough for you at the moment. We're all here for you anytime you want to chat to others who understand what you are going through! 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator