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My boyfriend has cancer he's pushed me away after I shouted and screamed at him

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My boyfriend has last stage cancer and I have been in denial since he told me for this reason I forgot and lashed out at him last week since then not heard from him but been messaging everyday with no response and I have been suffering as I don't stay with him and he's not started treatment yet 

is my denial normal and has anyone else gone through same and I am not sure what else to do and feel in despair as there is no contact now

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    Hello idiot.  Why not try writing your boyfriend a letter?  It is much more personal than an email or a text.  Explain that you have been in denial and that you are deeply sorry for screaming at him, and that you want to be there for him...it is about him and the fact that he is facing the possibility that he might not have much longer to live. Good luck.  

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    Thanks, my mum passed away in 2024 so for me as selfish as it may sound have had issues and also issues with him of his mistreatment towards me over the years. So I have had felt as though got trauma again on the days I hadn't seen him when he sent me a generic message about him having cancer.   

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    Sorry to hear about what you have been through.  The loss of your Mum must have hit you really hard, Also, your past experience with your boyfriend can not have been easy.  My own Mother was the victim of domestic abuse, so I know first-hand how this sort of thing can leave a life-time of mental scars.  I wish you well, and my thoughts are with you.  

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